I tried for 2 years, but with long work hours I didn't have much time to meet new people and since I'd just moved there for work, I didn't know anybody. Cost of living was great and I loved the friendly people and pace of life. I just couldn't handle the loneliness and isolation. I would do it again, but with a better work life balance and a stronger intention to meet people and make new friends.
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I live in a small tourist town (Ashland, OR), so I'm kinda in a mix where everything is compact and in one place, and services are common and very handy, whilst also having a lot of that beauty that living rural comes with, my only real issue here being the expense of everything.
My father lives in a "country roads" kind of environment as of recently, and I can personally confirm that I prefer being in a population of people in general, it's beautiful there, but I definitely felt "isolated" of sorts.
Yeah I'd be fine with it. My biggest obstacle would be getting to work. I order most of my stuff online these days and internet is easier to come by
Yeah, I used to, then moved to the city... Kinda miss it now, despite all the urban services
I don't really want to, but the cost of things is going to eventually drive me out there. I don't like being away from great dining choices, decent coffee roasters, good transit options, and most importantly, nearby hospitals for emergencies. I also really hate the red / right political bent of the rural areas.
Given your taste for amenities, and you are probably working for (someone else), this will require a car. The rural life will take more of your time commuting, it will put more miles on the odometer of any car, and of course you'll need to fuel & change oil more often.
Living in the country isn't necessarily cheaper.
Luckily I do get to work from home, and being in a well established city level suburb of a major city gives me a mostly decent middle ground. We have a decent close by hospital, the food choices I'm usually wanting, and so on. Yet I can still pretty easily head 'in to town' to the major city for the large garden parks, shows, museum, and extra shops. But I can tell within 5 years, I'll have to move another hour out to a cross between it being a distant suburb / farming town... and they are already in the news often enough for their right wing movement and racist happenings. I'm being vague on purpose, but that's how it is. Then I wouldn't make it into the city nearly as often, and the various cuisine choices I and my wife like are almost non-existent. Not to mention that entire town would mask to save a baby seal. sigh And yeah, transit there is the scarcely seen busses. No commuter trains... and I hate busses. Obligatory asdf movie quote, "I like trains..."
Yes, less assholes around.
I do. It means peace and quiet. It means a reasonable price for housing. It means learning some skills to maintain your place yourself. It means being more self-sufficient. It means you have to plan ahead because shopping is a 1x a week event, not a daily thing.
It also means people visit less and either are amazed at how much you have "out here," or are astounded you can live "out here."
I grew up rural and I'm glad to be a city boy now. I don't want to move back. Maybe if I get older and can't stand the bustling city life anymore?
I moved away from a rural area and I would really prefer to go back.
I live in southern California, but we're looking for a place to move to for retirement. Because the cost (and value) of housing where we are is so stupidly high, we could pretty easily go anywhere except Hawaii.
I love rural to the extent that equates to "surrounded by nature," and wouldn't say I'd never live in a rural place. On the other hand, we also really like diverse restaurants, and my wife has health issues that require us to go to specialists regularly.
What we're looking for is someplace on the outskirts of a city that's surrounded by wilderness, buying in that transition zone.
I went from living in a small city to a very big city and the change was so drastic. Restaurants downstairs. Grocery store in the same building I'm in. I can walk from my door to a subway station in less than 3 minutes. My doctor's office is 10 minutes walk. I can't imagine needing to use a car to just do regular things like going to a mall.
Yep! Rather rural now and shopping for land in the middle of nowhere as we speak!
I grew up in a major Midwest city with over 1 million people in the metro area and if I've learned 1 thing it's that random people suck. Now I know half the people I see on any given day. My daily commute is 4 minutes. I can drive 5 minutes the other way to hunt deer and elk.