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A an European, where mandatory tipping is not a thing, I find this practice of outsourcing the payment of restaurant employee's salaries to customers absolutely stupid.
I really can't understand how either customers or employees are letting this go on.
If one isn't able to pay their employees a living wage they should just pick another fucking thing to do tbh.
At the very least this needs to be spoken out loud and understood by everyone.
The customer is forced to subsidize the employer and those that suffer from this, the employee, typically blame the customer. The employer is the problem here, not the customer.
That's the first place I would apply the blame to, but, also a little bit on the employee, for either not being able to negotiate their salary better, or for not being part of a union that can do the negotiation for them.
The employer should share the wealth better though, that's for sure.
Employees actually fight to defend their tips, as they mean a much better income than the wage they could negotiate, even with unions. Customers are the most impacted here, and can't do much to change anything, except either stop using the service altogether, or stop tipping.
Citation required.
As an European, I have made the mistake of leaving a tip... and I have been given a tip... and have talked to others who got tipped... and our consensus is that it's an offensive way of attempted slavery.
If I do a job, I'm doing my job as specified, for the agreed upon price, take it or leave it. I'm not lowering the price to lure a customer, expecting they'll suddenly appreciate my work so much that maybe they'll decide to pay me more. If they don't think I'll do a good job from the beginning, they can go elsewhere. If for some reason I don't do a good job, they can have their money back, that's on me to make sure it doesn't happen. If I did a good job, and they don't think so, we can meet in court.
Mandatory tipping isn't a thing anywhere at all. And if it were, it wouldn't be tipping at all...it would just be a component of the price. It's socially expected, but not mandatory.
I also don't know how people let this go on though. The craziest part is tippers think they have the moral high ground over a person who doesn't tip, when in fact it's the opposite. Tipping is fundamentally unethical.
Not true, I've been to several restaurants that have small print on their menu along the lines of "a gratuity of X% will be automatically added to your bill", sometimes for parties over Y, sometimes after Z o'clock, sometimes just in general
That's just part of the price at that point. Sneaky for sure, and I wouldn't want to eat there... but it isn't a tip by definition.
Gratuity is a fancy word for tip. It's a separate line item, no different than if you'd written it yourself when paying by card, except it's not voluntary.
My point is the actual definition of both gratuity and tip requires they be optional. Those businesses are using the word incorrectly, but that doesn't change the definition.
Just consider that a "hidden fee". You're probably already paying hidden fees on your cellphone bill, ISP bill, flights, hotels and Airbnb's. Shouldn't be too much of a stretch to get over it.