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Thank you for changing your views, I know how hard that can be.
I wasn't a tankie in my past, I was homophobe among other things.
My views have changed since then and it hurts to think back on those who were hurt by my views. But I try to do better. And that's really all we can do.
We're human, we make mistakes. Our mistakes aren't what define us. It's our response to mistakes (be it our own or others) that define us.
Plus once I got to the root of where that homophobia came from (self hatred, being a victim of abuse, etc) I was able to move past it.
I'll never forget what it felt like to look at myself in the mirror and say aloud, "I'm bisexual."
And over the years confronting those I knew who still held onto those shitty views, and they either changed or I moved on.
Oh, I've never been a tankie. I was saying that I was one of the people that wanted to stay federated with Hexbear and try to make it work. I want to believe in leftist and queer unity, so I tried to turn a blind eye to their takes on Putin, thinking it was only a few bad apples.
But thinking back on it, the days we've been federated I was a lot angrier and jumpier than usual, and it's because of the bad energy they bring. Defederating was for the best.