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Unfortunately I am not really meant for the dating world. I have absolutely never had a libido, could never feel sexual pleasure, have extreme social anxiety, and am also too mentally unstable for people to be dealing with me all of the time. Growing up was sure odd to see people start pairing up with one another begining in my pre-teen years. At that time in my life I was too busy chanting insult words repeatedly to myself walking around the halls at school to really speak to other people too much.
Here I am as a full fledged adult now in my 30s. At least I've managed to stay employed so far with a decent career. But I've been causing issues at my job due to my instability that may threaten that.
But dating has never been in the cards for me. I've never really done it and will definitely die alone. It's weird because at least a part of me is still human and still needs human connection.
sigh
Idk. Good luck out there, OP. What flavor of issues are causing you to struggle with it?
You sound asexual, have you tried dating other asexuals before?
Is that when you only date Canadians?