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The pronouns have infiltrated our language!
Off topic? : 80+ year old friend asked me if he did wrong. As he tells it, when dining out, his waitress announced her pronouns were she/her. That was fine by him. Later, he says he asked, "Could you get me a refill on my iced tea?" He says her reply was hostile, "How rude! I told you my pronouns!" He was truly baffled. He did not know how to use her pronouns in a 'you' context. I told him he was fine and if it ever came up again, to shoot back with, "Excuse me Miss, but I didn't ask some other HER for a refill, I asked you, and 'you', 'thee' and 'thou' include all genders." Maybe I'm ignorant of some new usage, but from grammar stance, I can't make she/her fit into his request and am fine with 'you'.
Lol wtf did she mean..? It's not like your friend said "Hey can you call that waitress over there? I want to ask him for a drink"... I'm so confused as to what she expected in this scenario, and I say this as someone who uses they/them pronouns (not some weird "anti-woke" extremist)
Thank you :-)