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This is part of what I call "the allistic disability". They always tried to make us believe we are disabled, but are we really?
This is kind of the core question of disability, I think. What is disability if not a mismatch between your own way of navigating and functioning vs assumed normativity? If your own way of navigating and functioning was the assumed normative mode, would you still be "disabled"? A lot of our societys normative behaviors can in some way be hindering to those exhibiting them, but society is ready to provide full support to compensate for such things as they are a part of the normative mode. It's a fun thought experiment to consider how difficult it might be for a more or less normative person to function in an autistic society that only recognized and provided for normative brains to the degree that our own society provides for autistic brains. And on that note - Would an autistic society be better at providing for those people than ours does for us? Or would we close ranks around a new normativity the way that our own too often does?
In many key aspects of day-to-day life...yes, we absolutely are.
It was a joke.
I understand that there are hardships linked to our condition, but many of them are not caused by our condition, rather by the world not willing to accomodate us the same way they accomodate NT's.
That's the same with most disabilities. For instance, blindness does have some intrinsic hardship, but then it also has the hardships that come from a society that assumes you have vision and does not accommodate you.
For some people absolutely, but “day-to-day life” is built to not only serve “neurotypical” people but generally to make sure the worst of them don’t need to actually improve anything. Pretty much entire concept of “polite society” and the cowardly basis behind so many instances of “that’s just how we do it ok?!” are rooted in people who cannot effectively communicate blaming you for not being exactly like them and/or afraid to speak up against their authority. People who “don’t understand social situations”, in my experience, are often just people who have a harder time letting assholes steamroll though and like, yea it sucks for them when society punishes them but it’s not their fault that society is a collection of highly flawed rules whichbessentially boil down to demands to not question authority.
Some autustic people have genuine problems that give them problems even when/if those around them have the patience to work with them. Many just make certain worthless people insecure and that’s not their fault.
Yeah we're different to NTs, we have different perks but defecates in lots of areas.
I fit in well enough but notice where I've said something that's quite specific to my interests or believed something that was obviously a joke. Shit sucks but every day it gets easier, lean into it and don't be afraid to be yourself.
We're not normal but fuck it we ballin'
edit: leaving the autocorrect in, was a ~1am post for me 🫠
I'm not normally one to point out a spelling mistake, but there is a very important difference between someone with deficits in lots of areas and someone who defecates in lots of areas.
That looks like an autocorrect, not a spelling mistake, and a hilarious one at that!
Did you just say you shit in a lot of places?