It would be nice if tipping was just gone, and everybody got paid a living wage, like in most of the rest of the world. We're in a Nash equilibrium right now where if you don't tip, you're an asshole. Other people might even tip more if they hear about it, which reinforces the status quo. So I keep tipping well, and disliking that we're stuck here.
How can we end tipping culture and just have everyone be paid a living wage?
Probably because you can't keep your own point straight.
You started off here:
And now you've moved here
Which is it? Do you only tip for very good, above and beyond service? Or do you tip for good service, and tip more for going above and beyond? Those are very different claims.
Good service is doing your job: take the order in a timely and friendly manner, correct any kitchen mistakes. That deserves a tip. Above and beyond service deserves a higher tip. Rude or otherwise bad service deserves a lower tip, none at all of service is bad enough.
If you're not tipping for competent service because they didn't sufficiently supplicate themselves before you, you're just giving yourself an asshole discount.