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What you seem to want is to not be grouped with the "others". The ones that you look down on. The "dependents" as you call them. That is rather reductive to me. Just like people with blindness or deafness or the inability to walk can range in how well they can integrate into society or how much these disabilities affect them, the same is true for people with autism. You can have autism and look and act like, for all intents and purposes, a neurotypical person.
For me, grouping these experiences humanizes the people that are less able to integrate into society. I can understand them far more easily when someone explains how sensory issues affects someone to a lesser degree.
Like, we already group all experiences into one word, it's called being human, buddy.
I don't look down on the dependent people, I fight to avenge their lost time. The dependent people were cheated out of growing and being independent. I honestly believe that only a tiny tiny minority of these people are actually fully dependent on someone else. They were only raised to be dependent, and once they're actually taught how to be independent, they finally grow, much later in life. These people always blossom into an amazing human being once they're out of those abusive institutions and away from people who continue to infantilize them and bully them into staying regressed.
Everyone sees that stupid a-word as Person Who Can't Age Past Three and raises everyone with that horrible label like they couldn't age past three. And then they don't age past three until much later in life if they're given the chance. And while they're being raised to be a toddler forever, they're holding in unbridled anger from the way they've been treated and several other things. You think the adult screaming and throwing chairs is only angry over not eating a candy bar? The candy was the fly that landed on the straw that broke their back decades ago.
It's not just my experience, it's several experiences of several people who were cheated out of childhoods because of that stupid label. I watched people deteriorate into zombies, and I've seen them grow out of being zombies. It's almost as if the Help™ they received for their disability caused their disability.
If we're all human then why are some people treated like animals, literally being given bits and pieces of snacks as rewards for following commands, and being forced to perform for someone else's fame and credit?
And for the people who actually are dependent on others: they deserve a therapeutic life where they can be happy. Not one where they're abused by their caregivers every day like what happens today. And if they can shred paper for a fake job, they can work real jobs that actually benefits society like resetting Amazon delivery stations or being a janitor. Not only are they contributing, they get to socialize and be a part of society, which is what humans deserve.
Just break up that stupid "spectrum" and get to know these people instead of assuming they're all babies who can't grow and abandoning them.
I mean, that's verifiably and objectively wrong, since I don't believe that. But you seem to believe that there are a portion of the people that deserve the treatment of that. You think they are not like you, and that you shouldn't share that designation. You're the only one beating yourself up about it.
Regardless, autism is a spectrum. Deal with it.
Nobody deserves that. I don't think some people deserve it. I think no people deserve it. Everyone deserves the most fulfilling life possible.
I don't want that label because I don't even have that shit. I'm not Chinese so why should I call myself Chinese? I'm not a man so why should I call myself a man? I don't have cancer so why should I call myself a cancer patient? It has nothing to do with being above anyone else.
Everyone deserves a diagnosis that actually means something.
Then don't use the label? The point of a diagnostic tool is to help the diagnosed adjust. If you don't want to use the label, the who is stopping you from not using it? I don't get the issue.
A label that varies that much only causes people to never get the assistance they actually need. That's the issue. So many children are never given the chance to thrive and have fulfilling adult lives.
Also it's a dangerously believable scapegoat. So many people will assume a child smears feces and pees themselves because they're On A Spectrum and not because they're being raped at home. And then the child never gets help for the trauma, and the rapists get away. I may or may not be speaking from experience.
... I'll be real with you, dude... I think you should talk to a therapist. Just let them know about everything you've said here, and they'll be a much better help than I will.
At this point as much as I bitch about it I don't even care about what happened to me.
I just don't want it to happen to anyone else. And getting rid of a disorder label that only serves as a scapegoat and an excuse to give up on a child is the first step to saving anyone else from experiencing what I experienced and saw.