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‘There were no warning signs’: what happens when your partner falls into the ‘manosphere’?
(www.theguardian.com)
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Nah, that's not it. Manosphere assholes offer easy and satisfying answer to all the problem, and the solution they offer doesn't require anyone to do hard work, but instead gives the sensation of being right and cool.
That's the reason they attract people, not the uncaring left, not the smugness of righteous comments on the internet, ot the evilness of women.
The left is often extremely hostile and bitter towards men. A lot of these people grew up watching men getting portrayed as the source of all that's bad in the world on social media. An adult may be able to separate themselves from that kind of language, but I doubt that children can.
I'm sorry, but it absolutely does not help that we've intentionally created double standards where it's fine to trash entire groups of people as long as they're in the majority. It accomplishes nothing except pushing potential allies away into the arms of people who choose to accept them instead of constantly rejecting them.
The left talks a big game about inclusion and fairness, but its online spaces don't reflect that in the slightest. These spaces are often just an excuse for some traumatized people to bully others who they perceive as having harmed them. We never should have allowed this behavior and it's incredible how much damage it's done to the movement over the last 10-15 years.
It's clearly both. When there is this attitude from some people that men are dangerous and should be feared, while another group welcomes them in, it's pretty obvious which one has more draw. Valid and reasonable criticism is extremely important, but labeling them as the scum of the earth isn't that. The worst part is the message it gives to young impressionable boys who are just learning about this stuff.