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[–] gerryflap 3 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I'm aro/ace and sometimes I feel like this. But I guess what I want is just another person to have a connection with. If more people were aro/ace my problem would also be solved. Still I do sometimes wonder what I'm missing out on. Everyone seems to like it, yet I find it yucky. There's plenty of other things in life to enjoy though, so no biggie

[–] Opinionhaver@feddit.uk 2 points 4 days ago (1 children)

In my case, I just feel like it’s unfair to my girlfriend. I know it’s not my fault, and I’m not obligated to give her something I don’t enjoy myself - but the reality is that something that’s a big part of most relationships is missing from ours, and it’s because of me. We’re in an open relationship, so she doesn’t have to go entirely without, but it’s still not ideal.

[–] gerryflap 1 points 3 days ago

Hmmm yeah that sucks. In that regard we aro/aces have it easier I guess. For most people romance and sexuality seem to be tied. I can imagine that it often can lead to incompatibility