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Do some guys start humming/making noise around women to not frighten them? (lemmy.world)

submitted 4 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) by taxiiiii@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Might sound silly, but every once in a while, random guys around me (pretty short, female) start humming/making random noises when they get near me, usually when I'm alone. Imagine me standing at a red traffic light at night or something. It's never women. Sometimes, it's some creep trying to get my attention, though that's usually kinda obvious.

But I also had it happen with guys who didn't seem like they wanted anything. I lowkey suspect that some might make noises so that I'm not caught off guard or something?

Any men on here who do this? Or am I just tripping?

Edit to summarize: So, a few guys apparently do it on purpose, while others think they might do it subconsciously. Some do it around women, others around whomever, since anyone can get scared. Super interesting.

Also, when I spoke of creeps, I meant actual assholes who did and said shitty stuff, not random socially awkward people. You know the drill.

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[–] Sailing7@lemmy.ml 5 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I mostly use my dog as a way to introduce that I am near and mean no harm to anyone not expecting someone following the same path (mostly rather long streched bike&pedestrian roads with no exit but with park benches and geen patches for dogs and so on).

Simply by saying "Dogs Name, are you coming sweety?".

Announces that I am nearby with a doggy and by no means any poser that wants to appear scary.

At dark day times I mostly have a flashlight with me to shine on my dog and whatever she is currently sniffing (or sneakingly trying to eat...). Which has the sideeffect of her being better visible to others. (She's a bigger dog with black fur - so some people would be scared of her anyhow. Especially in the dark if there is a barely visible big dog. Which is why I hope to make people not that uncomfortable by speaking softly and shining light on her. (And of couse because bicicle riders need to be able to see her, to not run her over))

[–] Angelusz@lemmy.world 5 points 3 days ago (1 children)

And then the lady has the same name as your dog....

[–] Sailing7@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 days ago

Well yes, that could happen. I guess that would freak the lady the fuck out... well at least she got an nickname that definitly not a human name :D