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Do some guys start humming/making noise around women to not frighten them? (lemmy.world)

submitted 4 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) by taxiiiii@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Might sound silly, but every once in a while, random guys around me (pretty short, female) start humming/making random noises when they get near me, usually when I'm alone. Imagine me standing at a red traffic light at night or something. It's never women. Sometimes, it's some creep trying to get my attention, though that's usually kinda obvious.

But I also had it happen with guys who didn't seem like they wanted anything. I lowkey suspect that some might make noises so that I'm not caught off guard or something?

Any men on here who do this? Or am I just tripping?

Edit to summarize: So, a few guys apparently do it on purpose, while others think they might do it subconsciously. Some do it around women, others around whomever, since anyone can get scared. Super interesting.

Also, when I spoke of creeps, I meant actual assholes who did and said shitty stuff, not random socially awkward people. You know the drill.

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[–] Khanzarate@lemmy.world 23 points 4 days ago

Yes.

I started doing that when I was walking back to my dorm in college. It was winter, night fell early, and I didn't notice someone 10' ahead of me heading the same way. They got freaked out by the guy following them.

It turned out to be someone who also lived in my dorm, so I "followed" them most of the way home before I realized the issue and called out to them.

We ended up talking for a bit, and I said I'm sorry for scaring them, but the biggest issue was I seemed to come out of nowhere, so when they freaked out they thought I was some creep like, waiting to jump someone.

So yeah, I make noise, for others comfort. I don't even think about it anymore, it's just automatic.

The person I followed wasn't even a woman, he just thought I was gonna mug him, but if I can freak out a 6'2" guy I could freak out anyone by accident.