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Therapy isn't geared towards men who don't know how to put their expressions into words. It's geared towards women. Many professional therapists agree that Therapy is not suitable for all men. Therapy is W.E.I.R.D. Designed around White, Educated, Industrialized, Rich, and Democratic. It's only one tiny slice of the pie when it comes to human emotions, expression, and the science of psychology - which makes psychology -- at best -- a pseudoscience.
I would argue that therapy teaches everyone to deal with their emotions and since men have emotions too, therapy is for both. It's just starting on the back foot with men because we're taught depending to some extent on age and culture to push them down, bottle them up, and pretend they don't exist. Some people are better or worse suited for therapy, it is more successful with some people than others, but as a man who would not be alive today if not for therapy, I openly scoff at the idea that therapy is not 'geared toward men.' Learning how to put your expressions and emotions into words is a big part of the process, because we think so much in language that having words for the things we feel is really important to recognizing, acknowledging, and addressing those feelings.
This is sexist af
If you think me pointing out that therapy isn't designed around how men operate somehow makes ME sexist, you need to step back and evaluate yourself.
Why'd you respond to this guy and not me, who posted a long, professional response ten hours before him? Btw, I agree your take is sexist, because you're basing your view on stereotypes of men and not on any evidence.
As a (male) psychotherapist, I really have to disagree with you on all counts. A common goal in psychotherapy is to learn how to recognize and describe your internal experience. Lots of people struggle with this, men and women. Every single person walks into therapy with a different set of circumstances and a different set of objectives, and I've never once heard a single psychotherapist say "therapy is not suitable for all men." That doesn't make sense.
Anecdotally, it is true that men seem less likely to approach therapy with willingness. This is a trend I've noticed, and is by no means a rule. What this demonstrates is a difference in socialization and acculturation between genders, so that men and women tend to "start" psychotherapy in different places in regards to social/emotional development. But psychotherapy as a discipline is absolutely not geared toward women over men.
Great answer, thank you.