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Whether it's through professionals IRL or strangers on the Internet, it'll require effort on your part. You're going to have to want to be an active participant and willing to work on yourself. It will be a process, not a single event.
What does "work on yourself" mean in this context?
Changing habits, thought patterns etc. A therapist can't do that for you, that's something you have to do yourself thus "work on yourself"
I am tired from people who talk in wide way that can be applied everywhere and would result in nothing.
To add to this, I was following therapist orders, it did nothing.
That is actually is kind of what I meant when I said that I assumed that they don't have a magic pharse, meaning that they their orders and pills sadly did not work and I was right in the sense that they were unable to solve my issues as I expected.
For how long? Cause a couple weeks or whatever isn't going to cut it, it's a process that can take months or years.
I don't think it's a therapist's job to fix your problems. It's a therapist's job to help you figure out how to fix your own problems. If you don't what that, they will absolutely be useless.
Your therapist should give you tools to change these things that's why I mentioned them. You have to use them and want to use them (changing your thought patterns). I see this all the time with people coming here who don't know how to proceed in life anymore and they always dismiss everything that is said to them. You have to want to change, nobody is doing that for you, they can just give you the tools to do so but ultimately it's up to you.