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I'm not saying you're wrong, but I (as a cis guy) haven't seen anything againt women. Do you have any examples?

I've not had a problem here, do you have examples of this? Not saying it does not exist, more curious as I've found this space a lot kinder than reddit.

"Which is why cis women make up <10% of the Lemmy side of the fediverse. It’s a disaster for women here."

I mean I can believe that since it's based off of Reddit but do you have a source for that?

Is this really the case? I find this unexpected. Lemmy seems to be friendly to the LGBTQ people, namely trans.

If what you say is true, we should probably address it somehow.

I know multiple IRL women who don’t share your complaints about Lemmy. Maybe people are shitty to you because you’re shitty to them.

That's how it is anywhere that doesn't have any real moderation. There are those actively seek to harass anyone who isn't right leaning cis hetero white male. Lemmy like every other modern social platform is an open air forum available to the entire 7 billion population of the world. Moderators don't see 99% of the posts. And 99% of what they do see, they don't take for than a few seconds to consider. The nefarious abusers are almost always more subtle than moderators give thought to. This allows harassment to run rampant. This is a fundamental issue with social media. As as I'm concerned it's an intractable problem (brought you by free speech absolutist libertarian bros).

That's as opposed to the traditional internet boards where posting was orders of magnitude lower volume. Site administrators and moderators cared about fostering a good community. Moderators saw a not insignificant portion of the content posted. Not just reports. Forum members used one pseudonym. No throwaways like the reddit/lemmy paradigm. What you posted was attached to you as a person. Therefore there was consequences to being an asshole. In other words deterrence.

Also I find it kind of amusing how they out themselves for their simpleton world view. I've noticed a pattern where they take superficial readings of a post to identify keywords/phrases. Then assign identity to that user. Then engage in harassment based on that.

For example say I posted something that was sympathetic to women. Ergo they assume I am a woman. And they engage the usual framework of belligerent replies appropriate to that assumed identity. I know for certain the key words in the second sentence of this comment already has triggered someone for sure.

Edit: The prior replies are just *chefs kiss*. I can't tell if they're being intentional or if they're just that dumb. I guess that's part of the fun isn't it.

The downvotes prove your point. This topic needs more discussion, but most of the times when women bring this up, their comments get downvoted to hell. It's quite a "gotcha" for someone to ask to see "examples" when most of the examples we've come across or created will be buried or have since been deleted.

Alternative question - for those that don't believe this is an issue, when is the last time you came across a post on Lemmy that is specifically for/about women or women's issues (especially one posted from a woman's perspective)? Or even better, go ahead and make such a post. Watch how fast the downvotes come.

I expect this comment to be downvoted the same way as the parent comment was, the same way that past posts I've made and read about women's issues have been downvoted on Lemmy. If men want this place to be inclusive for women, they have to do their part to support us - not downvoting our concerns, simply because they don't experience the same issues, is the absolute bare minimum. Otherwise, why would we keep posting/commenting about our issues when doing so invites a downvote cascade?

Any examples of this? It sounds terrible and should be addressed.