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I believe truly having no empathy would make it impossible to form anything other than surface level friendships.

The only precious resource I own is my time, and who I spend it with. The thing in life that makes the hard times seem not so bad, and the good times twice as good, is spending with people I care about, and people that I know care about me.

To be pathological about it... My asking questions about you IS a means to an end. It gives a few useful things:

• I learn about you
• I learn about your worldview, I learn what motivates you
• and I learn where you tend to sell yourself short so I know how to encourage you

Talking about yourself is "giving" when only you share vulnerability. 1 word answers is keeping your guard up. Asking about them is "giving" because you get opportunities to learn about/support/uplift them. People like getting questions. It can make them feel cared for.

And I'm not saying anything is wrong with you. Just sharing my perspective.

And I'm a guy, so I guess you'd really be puzzled if we met IRL!

I was just in a group setting where 3 people who all had a tendency for "same sex attraction" described themselves differently.

One individual strongly preferred the term queer.

The second identified as pan because they liked the flag more than the bi flag, but admitted that bi might be a better fit for them.

The third indentified as bi.

The discussion of accurate terminology could be helpful in some settings, but... In casual settings, or even when negotiating intimacy with other people, what YOU mean by the term means more than the term itself, and you are not out of place by feeling "generally fuzzy" on usage.

This is challenging to read as a human. And I know I'm not the only one. So if we can't work out all the letters... no way a computer could either. I liken it to the idea that if I type out "detialed", spell check can suggest "detailed", but if I write "ditaled" it's not going to know.

When adult men using the urinal allow their pants to fall down around their ankles while peeing

We've been called out, but deservedly so.

I second this. Fastmail has been a joy to use. Since the users are paying, the company has (less) incentives to enshittify. JMAP? Count me in!

This was such a helpful little example, thank you! Like a peek into another world.

Am I crazy? I'm seeing a github page with commits from 6 days ago. When you unmaintained what do you mean, like no new features?

Love your "moss on building" smudge effect.

With such sharp, acidic wit, you might say the prose is... Lemony.

"He was my fourth cousin, thrice removed. He just couldn't stay away from the bottle and started many brawls at the reunions, baptisms, and funerals."

This is a phenomenal resource! In all my years, I haven't actually heard anyone say "once removed" in story telling. I would almost feel weird saying it, despite it being technically correct. It's like saying "whom" out loud, you might be right, but people start mocking you.

Yes I need better coworkers, what are you gonna do...