Been with my partner for 15 years. My top 2 tips would be
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Honesty. Build a culture in your relationship where you can speak your truth and so can they. It means creating space where they can be heard and they should do the same for you (if they don't, leave).
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make time to 'hangout" together. Doesn't have to be fancy date, just regularly carve out some time to listen to music together, watch a movie and talk about it after, go for a walk...whatever. Connect on stuff that isn't life admin related (bills, kids, chores etc)
You know that feeling when you're watching a horror movie and internally you're just screaming at the protagonist "run!" ?
This is exactly how it feels as a non-american watching everything unfold over there. I really hope it doesn't and the people stand up and protect the vulnerable (read: not white) but yeah....if you could give the German Jews one piece of advice in the 1930s, what would it be?