I'm well aware of the issues in the US and caused by the government. Much of it affects me. My point is that Europe, Canada, and Australia have been happy to go along for the ride, as well as causing problems of their own. Now, every time I get on lemmy, I see these same people who have benefitted from these policies and actions saying "fuck ALL Americans," when there are so many of us that have been fighting this bullshit all while actually being victimized by our own government. Now that they're experiencing the slightest inconvenience, they want to cause an uproar and shit on everyone who happens to have been born here. It's hypocritical and gross. You didn't care before, so what changed? The only time I can recall in recent memory when any of these folks actually gave a shit about us was during the Floyd protests, which was certainly appreciated.
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Oh? What amazingly wonderful country do you hail from?
As an American, I have no love for my country or its history. Europeans and their descendants around the globe, however, are quite hypocritical when it comes to the US. They have their own horrendous histories and currently do terrible things around the globe. They love to point to the US to take attention off of themselves, all while they enjoy taking US money and benefiting from the protection the US military industrial complex affords them. These benefits allow them to do wonderful things for their citizens, all while my brethren are held in bondage, murdered by the state and white supremacists, and homeless/ starving in our streets. It isn't too dissimilar to slave bonds. Europe condemned American slavery all while participating in the "slave bond" trade. Now they are all in a tizzy and butt hurt because the clown ass president said some mean things and started economic slap fights that primarily harm Americans. All that to say, anyone complaining about the US that isn't from Latin America, Africa, or certain Asian countries is just a hypocritical toddler throwing a tantrum.
Good, ya'll keep your trash, I'm already surrounded and under siege by enough shitty white folks.
Where are people getting this idea that there will ever be any type of trails for this? I've even seen some talking about the Hague, which is particularly laughable because the US has an invasion policy specifically regarding the Hague, predating Trump.
While I do have sympathy with your argument, I also have two counter points:
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Autism isn't considered "wholesome," it is the subject of mockery and common insult, replacing "retard."
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As someone with autism, people with the personality disorders you describe often try to target us for abuse. Fortunately for me, I was raised in an environment that I have a hard shell and fight back, but many aren't so lucky.
My base reaction would be that I would not, as I do not have an STI (I test frequently, regardless of sexual activity). I might consider it if I believe we may be exceptionally compatible (emotionally, goals, etc), the type of illness, AND we spend enough time for me to see that they are managing it well enough on their own that I can be confident they are minimizing my risk. While zero risk is not achievable (even in a monogamous relationship with a STI free partner), if they are managing their half of the equation and I'm managing mine, then that shows they are a partner who cares enough to protect me. I know that many with STIs may find that frustrating and view it as part of the stigma they face, but it isn't about them. As an individual with no infections, I'd ideally like to keep it that way.
I've been on both sides of this scenario, but I'll explain why I have flaked in the past to maybe help you understand why it could happen.
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The individual suddenly becomes impatient/aggressive within the time that was given. Not only is this a big turnoff in general, it is also concerning and leads me to reconsider the safety of the scenario.
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The individual communicates well up to the point i confirm the meet. Suddenly, they are taking a significant amount of time to respond, so i assume they are not interested or asleep. I will sometimes wake up to find they were messaging long after we last talked, almost as if they decided to flake, but wanted it to appear as if I did.
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Their demeanor completely changed once we agreed to meet. To be clear, I mean they suddenly become very disrespectful and demeaning. I don't know them, so to move to that type of interaction without discussion or prior involvement makes that person unsafe in my opinion.
My preferences are mostly submissive, but the way I mesh with an individual, along with what they desire from me, certainly plays a role.
Partners who state plainly what they enjoy or would like certainly motivate my submissive nature. It is particularly thrilling when you feel comfortable seeking out your partner's pleasure just how they want you to.
It isn't about "allow," but more about "accept." I have had physical and romantic relationships with people that engage in sex work. In my experience, it depends on the level of commitment and the "extent" of their sex work. My feelings aren't meant to condemn them, nor are they reason to condemn me.
To answer your question in the most exact way, I wouldn't inherently have an issue with entering a monogamous relationship with a woman who posts content to onlyfans. If the content was solo and fan interaction was kept digital, I wouldn't find this problematic. However, if the content involved others or meeting fans in person, then I wouldn't be able to accept that within a monogamous dynamic. Given the second scenario, I likely would prefer a platonic relationship overall.
Yet, they love to talk about Muhammad's child bride (not condoning here). It is very important to condemn some guy who died 1500 years ago, but not the human skidmark walking among us.