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When it's in California, it's "God's wrath", when it's under Trump, it's "just a thing that happens, nothing to be done."

I've met a couple people who've met Trump, and let's just say "He's the dumbest person I've ever met" is the default opinion of him.

Oh yeah? Well MY approval rating is a gazillion percent!

Both The Boys and Invincible have longtime producers who have been behind the project since the beginning, which makes them a little different.

A couple of days ago my brother texted me (we haven’t spoken at all since that day) and apologized....but he still refuses to address the elephant in the room. He’s just pretending it never happened. I told him that X is clearly not stable, why would you NOT notify the police? I honestly don’t know what to do. (Is there a way i can report this, just in case?). And oh by the way. It was his 21st bday yesterday and I called him in the morning. He told me that he got a present from an unknown sender....I said that the sender is probably NOT unknown to us. Like this is 100% my psycho ex. I just KNOW it. As I said, this isn’t a positive update. A lot of people seemed to be concerned and that’s the only reason I posted this. I just hope things don’t get worse.

tl;dr Confronted ex about the contents of the laptop. He confessed and apologized. My brother doesn’t want to talk about the situation at all and he chose not to go to the police

TOP COMMENTS

Weaselpanties

GIRL. Take that whole laptop TO THE POLICE. I am not kidding, this is very serious. If your brother ends up dead you will never forgive yourself.

Exhilario

    This needs to be higher up.

    OP, this guy is showing serious signs of a true psychopath and (future) serial killer behaviour. YOU ARE NOT SAFE, AND NEITHER IS YOUR BROTHER. Take that laptop and go to the fucking police, NOW. Don't wait, don't worry about anything else.

    And check your brothers house for more cameras instantly, if the police doesn't. This is something you don't just stop doing. It's still happening now. You didn't notice before and you probably wouldn't have noticed it for months if you didn't look on the laptop.

    The way he talks to you and views the world is truly disturbing and the way he told you to stop crying? That's psychopath behaviour. How he went calm? Same thing. There is a real fucking chance he will try to be near to your brother in some other way, and he'll do something much worse to him than just pictures. GO TO THE POLICE. Stay safe.

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Diablo165

Your brother is an idiot. I hope he wises up before your ex stashes him in an oubliette and starts lowering lotion down to him in a basket.

FINAL COMMENTS FROM OOP

I definitely won’t post another update. This is the last one. And I forgot to mention it but I have the laptop. He said that he was doing us a favor by letting us keep it...I mean he didn’t really put up a fight about it

thanks for your concern either way

As soon as she got there, she got into a fight with my mom asking her about my dad's money. There was a lot of cursing and names called and my mom almost called the police but my aunt (and this scared the crap out of me) threatened to have her arrested for fraud if she didn't own up, so the cops weren't called.

I'm not going to go into the full details of the argument, because it's too much to type, but basically, my mom has been pulling small amounts out every month for the last year to supplement her retirement salary. Apparently, the account was put in trust before my dad died and my mom was the trustee, which is what made my aunt mad, because she knew the money was there and didn't know that I had never received any of it. I hadn't ever talked finances with her before this.

My mom doesn't want to turn the account over, because she claims that the trust paperwork says that she's not required to until I turn 25. She also started yelling at me for "running my mouth" to my aunt, and accusing me of trying to ruin her retirement, and that she deserved that money for taking care of me and my dad when he got sick and etc.

I got pissed and told her that I was going to sue her for the money and that I knew what happened to the truck and I was going to sue her for that too.

She kind of broke down and started saying how hard it had been for her since my dad died, but I didn't buy it because she's always been petty and controlling, even when I was a kid.

She basically told me to get out and tried to turn it into a pity party about how hurt she was and how was she going to pay bills and etc.

I just left.

The mechanic my aunt and uncle are paying for says he can have the truck running by Tuesday because he's back up until then, but I'll take that. Next week, my aunt is going to start looking for a good lawyer for me. My uncle suggested the same thing a lot of commenters did, which was that we call the state bar and see of there are any lawyers that need pro bono hours.

Right now I'm fully NC with my mom, and she's left me five or six texts that range from "I'm sorry, let's talk about everything" to "you're an ungrateful son, how could you betray me like this". I'm just ignoring them.

Thank you all who commented for the advice, especially all of you who advised I keep my cool. She was really ready to call the cops on my aunt, so I can imagine she would have done the same to me if I confronted her.

I'm just going to save up for now. The job I'm waiting for is now out of the picture due to how far away I now live, but I'm thinking about trying for trade school or an apprenticeticeship in one of the trades.

Thank you all for the good advice. I really wouldn't have been able to set everything in motion without you all.

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Commenter 1: NTA get a lawyer and sue her for the money she took and have the trustee changed.

Commenter 2: It is probably against the trust rules for mom to be spending the money. Most trustees are held responsible for any illegal withdrawals and will be charged with a crime and required to pay it all back

Commenter 3: And please don’t start feeling guilty about going no contact. Just remember it doesn’t have to be forever. You can reevaluate the situation in five years if you want. And if you see your mother in court, you can always say, “Mom, it’s best for my mental health right now to keep my distance since I don’t feel like you’ve treated me fairly in the past. So let’s get through this lawsuit and if I feel like you are being honest and truly want to do the right thing, then I will think about adding you back into my life.” Notice you will have not made a commitment, but if she thinks she may get you back maybe she’ll do the right thing by your father’s estate.

Commenter 4: All excellent news. Don't let your mother manipulate you into feeling guilty, you owe her nothing. Remind yourself how she took advantage of you and stole from you. I hope you can get a lawyer soon before she drains the entire account. Your aunt and uncle sound like awesome people. Good luck.

Editor’s note: Marking this as concluded because OOP has deleted the account as he has moved out, gone NC with his mother, and will have his truck fixed in no time

I was to see a chart of how much of that is L, G, B, T, and Q broken down over time. Definitely would have been mostly G at the start, now T seems to be growing the fastest. We've honestly made a ton of progress, gay marriage is so normalized it's not even a maga talking point.

Now that we've got the serious stuff out of the way...being left handed obviously makes you gay.

OOP explains the process of the fertility clinic being involved

OOP: The fertility clinic was just involved in the egg extraction, embryo formation, and storage of eggs and embryos. Another medical practice utilized the in vitro fertilization methods with the person I thought would be our surrogate. He did not pick the surrogate for us, it was a personal friend who agreed to do this out of the supposedly kindness of her heart since she already had two prior children and knew that she could carry to term easily and didn't mind being pregnant. Had we gone through a professional surrogacy practice, there would have been other steps involved and they would have found a few options for surrogates for us but the costs for way too high which is why we skipped some steps and a lot of money by going through a friend that we thought we could trust. Now I feel like I can trust no one. I don't even feel like I could try surrogacy again far in the future because my trust in that is broken.

Commenter 2: NTA. One of the things that gets me is that you were working extra jobs to pay for the surrogacy which I am assuming included her medical bills and financially supporting her? I would speak to a solicitor about suing her for your money back. She knew that if she was having sex then there was always a chance that the child was biologically hers.

OOP: Most of the cost was for the egg retrieval, embryos formation and storage, and especially the IVF procedures which weren't eligible for insurance cover through her health insurance.

OOP on the surrogate's family

OOP: She doesn't have a husband. She had two kids with a long-term boyfriend but they split 5 years or so ago.

She's not married. She was with her ex for a long time and had two kids with him but didn't marry. They broke up around five or six years ago.

Did the surrogate sign legal papers regarding the parental rights

OOP: The only paperwork that was legally drafted was for her transferring over the parental rights to us, much like an adoption in the event that there is already a mutual off-the-books agreement to adopt from someone already personally known. We were trying to do it as cheap as possible because we don't make much money and the costs that couldn't be avoided were sky high enough to the point I took out loans from the bank and then picked up two part-time jobs on the side to pay toward these loans.

Update (in comments): January 4, 2025 (five months later)

Update...

I'm low on time right now but will be posting a separate update post later...

I'm not staying and I'm not caring for him anymore. I was not even offered a choice in the matter at all which is why I've kept telling myself I shouldn't want to, compare myself to men in a similar type of parentage situation, and have kept myself aloof toward the boy I thought was mine.

I have no legal rights anymore no matter what because SHE fought to get "her" son back.

I'm actually a lot more upset about losing this child than I presented in my post and I'm realizing more and more with each passing day. The choice wasn't mine and I lost.

I posted that I wouldn't want to be the sucker raising someone else's kid as more of a cope than anything. She got to have "her" kid, he left me, and I'm stuck with nothing.

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OOP explains about being the legal guardian in the question after the maternal tests confirmed her not to be the biological mother

OOP: ...and yes, that is exactly what I've been going through all these months. I have little to no rights. I'm stuck coping with major loss. My best chance at still being this boy's guardian is to stay with that awful scrub of a guy, hope he lets me stay, and agreeing to let that slore of a "friend" have 50/50 and be the chump who still pays most of the bills for that unmotivated scrub SOB in the meantime while he continues to cheat. It also came out that she wasn't his only affair either. He's been cheating all along for most of the time that we'd been trying without success to get pregnant. So for anyone who acts like I'm "selfish", I "make their blood boil"..they can go fuck themselves because they don't know me like that and I don't have any real choice in the matter.

So what if someone else came up with the name "Dull Men's Club"? We can co-opt any name we want. There's no rule that says whomever says a name first on the internet gets dibs forever.

It's probably a vanishingly small population that actually believes the US should absorb Canada. The problem is there's a substantial population that will just support anything Trump says without critical thought, and Trump will repeat anything Putin tells him to without critical thought.

The knight can buck its rider off, causing it to capture an opponent 2 spaces away along any file, but the horse is out of play, leaving a pawn at the original position as the displaced rider. Since the king has experience in battle against horses, it is ineffective against them for capturing, but you can still demote to a pawn.

Turns out that "slams", "claps back", and "weighs" all mean the same thing in headlines; "does nothing".