ArbitraryValue

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[–] ArbitraryValue@sh.itjust.works 2 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago)

When my high-school girlfriend broke up with me in college (she was the first person I had ever dated) something broke in my brain. I mean that literally. It's when my depression started and that depression hasn't gone away for over 20 years. It probably never will. My feelings for her caused me a lot of suffering and ruined my subsequent relationships for about a decade, but gradually they became a dull ache rather than a sharp pain and by now they're simply bittersweet nostalgia.

I really hope for your sake that your situation will work out better than mine has, but perhaps you can feel more optimistic about your future if you know that even I eventually got to the point where I was ready for something new. I don't think about my ex even when I'm depressed and I even find it darkly funny that in retrospect she was less compatible with me than the women I broke up with because I couldn't stop thinking about her were.

[–] ArbitraryValue@sh.itjust.works 1 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago)

I wouldn't say I lost interest, but rather that Endgame was a great ending for the MCU. Why would I want to watch past the end?

[–] ArbitraryValue@sh.itjust.works -1 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago) (1 children)

There's no accounting for taste, as the saying goes, but where have you been that is quiet but not car-reliant? The lower population density that is made possible by driving reduces noise much more than cars increase it.

[–] ArbitraryValue@sh.itjust.works 1 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago)

Yes, but even Skynet would probably like me better than the average woman does. Skynet > human woman > AM.

(I never know if explicitly saying that I'm not being serious is necessary on the internet or just ruins the joke, but here I'm going to ruin the joke.)

[–] ArbitraryValue@sh.itjust.works 0 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago) (5 children)

I know a couple of people my age (about 40) who really prefer not to drive, but it's such a strange preference IRL that I suspect most people online who claim that it's what they prefer have just never experienced how much better it is to have a car and live somewhere where driving is convenient.

I know that sounds patronizing but I was a bikes/mass transit supporter myself when I was younger and it was 100% because I hadn't learned how to drive and I didn't know what I was missing.

[–] ArbitraryValue@sh.itjust.works 4 points 13 hours ago

I've lost you? But we were meant to be together!

[–] ArbitraryValue@sh.itjust.works -5 points 17 hours ago (6 children)

Meeting humans is intolerable, but my hope is that with AI technology advancing as rapidly as it is, soon I will be able to assemble the right robot for me...

[–] ArbitraryValue@sh.itjust.works 23 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Why is the media not blaring the alarms?!

It's front-page news in the New York Times right now. The Washington Post too.

[–] ArbitraryValue@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

the hardcore autistic stuff

But that's the stuff that's fun! A good game is a game I have a spreadsheet for.

When I was a pre-teen, I used to play Diablo with a married couple that played together. (I never met them IRL, just in-game.) That created some unrealistic expectations for me about romantic partners and computer games - I wanted to date a woman who shared my interest in games, but I never met even a single one and so I gave up on that long ago. A couple of women I dated did want to try playing games with me because they were interested in sharing my hobbies, but they were so bad at the games I liked and the games they wanted to play were so casual (and they were bad at those too). I knew I was being an asshole but I still refused to keep playing with them. It was just too frustrating.

I should clarify that I didn't expect someone who had never played games before to become a pro instantly. What bothered me was that they didn't even seem to want to win. Nowadays I just accept that I'm way more intense about games than most people (not just women) are and so I deliberately avoid showing that part of myself IRL. It wouldn't look good.

[–] ArbitraryValue@sh.itjust.works 182 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (5 children)

The fact that the salute is so offensive, they did it so blatantly, and their denial was so disingenuous is the point. It's a demonstration of power. They can do a Nazi salute and their opponents can't punish them. They can deny that they did a Nazi salute and their opponents can't control the narrative. If they did something more subtle, then people might think that they weren't facing any consequences because their opponents were giving them the benefit of the doubt. With the Nazi salute there is no doubt. The only explanation for why they aren't facing any consequences is that their opponents are powerless.

 

I live a bachelor lifestyle, so I have no food in here. Just alcohol. I hope the mouse figures that out and goes away. I should get some traps in case it doesn't. I hate killing animals but there's no practical alternative.

 
 

I was supposed to move my car last night but I forgot. The ticket is for $65 but I found a dollar on the ground near my car so I'm actually only out $64.

I set an alarm in my calendar so I won't forget next time.

 

It'll cost $9 each time. They're raising money for the mass transit system by charging specifically those people who don't use the mass transit system and that feels really unfair to me.

 

Archive link.

As recently as February, Mr. Walz said on a podcast that he had been in Hong Kong, then a British colony, “on June 4 when Tiananmen happened,” and decided to cross into mainland China to take up his teaching duties even though many people were urging him not to.

But it was not true. Mr. Walz, the Democratic vice-presidential nominee, indeed taught at a high school in China as part of a program sending American teachers abroad, but he did not actually travel to the country until August 1989.

Why bother making something like this up?

 

Pretty much every major shopping website has terrible search functionality.

I usually want something very specific, for example 60w dimmable e12 frosted warm led bulb. I have not found a single shopping website that won't show me results without many of these terms in the description. I don't want to see listings that say 40w and don't say 60w anywhere, and it isn't hard to filter them out!

Are these shopping websites bad on purpose? What's in it for them?

 

Before covid, I would be sick with a cold or flu for a total of about two weeks every year. That means I spent 4% of my time sick; one out of every 25 days. Since covid appeared, I've been wearing an N95 in crowded indoor areas whenever I reasonably can. (Obviously I can't if I'm eating something.) My main goal initially was to protect my elderly relatives, but during the last four years I have not gotten sick even once, except from my elderly relatives who didn't wear masks, got sick, and then infected me when I was caring for them.

Why isn't everyone wearing N95s? Sure, it's uncomfortable, but being sick is much more uncomfortable. And then there's the fact that wearing an N95 protects other people and not just the wearer...

 
 

There appears to be no straightforward way to permanently stop Windows 11 Home from rebooting on its own after installing updates. I looked for workarounds but so far I have only found a script that has to run on a schedule to block the reboot by changing "working hours". (Link.)

Is that really the best that is possible?

 

I have an Intel i7-4770 CPU (from 2013) and I don't think I have ever been CPU-bound so I would rather not spend money on upgrading it. However, I want to upgrade my graphics card to a Radeon RX 7600. My motherboard supports PCIE 3.0 which the RX 7600 is fine with.

Is there anything I should look out for? I'm worried that I'm missing something that will prevent me from running a 2023 video card on hardware ten years older than that.

(In case anyone is curious, my current video card is a GeForce GTX 960. It has been good enough for Diablo 2 Resurrected but I don't think it will be able to handle Baldur's Gate 3.)

 

I bought a new-in-box LG V20 about 18 months ago because I was tired of phones without removable batteries and headphone jacks. However, it gets absolutely terrible reception for some reason (as in, no signal in the middle of Manhattan). Some guy had the same problem and he soldered a big antenna to his phone to fix it. I might try to do that but given how great I am at soldering, there's a good chance I'll break the phone. Should I do it? I don't want to have to buy a modern phone with a built-in battery but I can't just have a phone which doesn't work when I'm away from wi-fi...

 

Driving is the most comfortable, convenient, and fun mode of transportation. Walking and biking can be OK but only for traveling relatively short distances in good weather. Mass transit is inherently unpleasant. No matter how nice you try to make it (and most mass transit systems aren't nice) the fact of the matter is that passengers are still stuck in a crowded box with a bunch of strangers and limited to traveling to the mass transit system's destinations on the mass transit system's schedule. Compare this to getting into your own car and driving wherever you want, whenever you want...

I currently live in a place too crowded for driving to be practical - I get that places like this need mass transit. But needing mass transit sucks!

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