This account is new, but lemm.ee was my home instance for two years. The Admin, sunaurus, was great, and I am impressed that he made it as long as he did before asking for help. You say it was stressful modding this community, so I'm sure you understandand how stressful it was for him to be the admin of such a popular and busy instance.
It really concerns me that you're glossing over the fact that the Nazi glorification reports were all quickly dismissed by whichever mod(s). You're trying to rewrite history, and again, it's a funny thing to do with this instance going offline soon.
As the saying goes: if a Nazi sits at a bar and no one kicks him out, it's a Nazi bar. How can you expect anyone to take conservatism seriously if you aren't keeping the worst of humanity from being associated with it?
Take a breath. Let go of this. If Lemmy is "trash" for you, maybe this isn't a good fit. That happens in life, and I get that you feel it's unfair. But, it was pointed out in your other thread that the fediverse works in a way that you can be your own admin of a conservative instance, and you had at least one invite to one that is already up and running
https://lemm.ee/post/55846636