You are not required to have a label or identity. I give you permission to just be you.
this post was submitted on 11 Nov 2023
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Why does mine say "tramp"? 😥
Do you have a tattoo above your butt? 😉
All these labels do is create problems.
Just exist, be happy, and everyone else can fuck off and worry about themselves.
Life is too short to chase trends and do what you think everyone else expects from you. Fuck it.
You like a bit of this and that. Who cares. Why box yourself into a specific category. Over your lifetime your opinions will change anyway.
Fucking lgbtqiat+!?-, just be. 8 billion unique people, who wants to be like everybody else.
Labels are a convenient shorthand. But they're only useful if the person you're talking to understands the shorthand. So for niche cases, no, they're not always useful.
Your advice is good, but labels aren’t always a problem. Even if someone doesn’t use labels themselves, it can be helpful to at least know what they are. For example, if you see a thread, magazine, comment etc. using a label that others often apply to people like you, then you know that it might be relevant to your interests.
Yer a wizard Harry
Why is the label so important to you?
Now I don't know what I can be, what should I be?
Labels are a convenient way to help others understand. They don't define you.
It would be simpler if we just used words to describe who we're attracted to that don't involve our own gender tbh.
You're a non binary person who is attracted to women. If people want to use a word to make it easier to understand for them it doesn't change anything about you.
Gender-neutral terms for a person attracted to women include gynecophile and gynesexual, though not many people self-label with these terms compared to just saying "I like women".
ok thank you. I also don't enjoy calling myself trixic because it's not a known identity and that means there aren't a lot of places I can buy trixic stickers or flags. It's underrated!!
Is there anything stopping you from just making your own stickers and flags?
oh you're right!! I can do it! Thank you.
In the old days, that's what all LGBTQ+ people had to do. So I think it's a nice exercise sometimes, a way to connect with the LGBTQ+ community of old, by learning valuable skills and creating something instead of just consuming.
yes, and drawing or painting the flags and things like that!!
You're ok.
thank you!!
What if I don’t want to have any label or identity?
Then don't give yourself one and reject it if others try.
but if I don't have an orientation then if I tell someone I like women, they will say "oh so you're straight?" and I'm not, if I tell them I'm trixic, they will understand. But thank you for that suggestion!!
I'm ace, but I stopped giving myself labels on my sexuality a while back. They just get confusing sometimes, because people never fit into our boxes. We can't even fit ourselves in our own boxes.
Something that might fit as a label is "sapphic" or "saphe". I've heard feminine presenting NB use it to describe themselves before. Of course I don't know how you present or anything like that, so no disrespect if you present androgynous or masc
I've went from thinking I was bi, to pan, to ace then demi to now having no clue and using no label.
Exactly! When I start contemplating labels, I usually end up on the conclusion that I'm me, whatever someone else might call it. Sexuality can change over time, and doesn't fit neatly at any point. In college I thought I was straight, until I got a crush on a guy. I still don't know what exactly to call that. I just know that I'm me, and I'll probably never make complete sense of my feelings