Comradeship // Freechat

Idk what constitutes many and non manly anymore. I guess growing plants and gardening type stuff is not "manly"? I have a lot of amaryllis flowers that bloom every year. I have 4 that I raised from seeds from my very first one. They bloomed a year ago. It takes 3 years of growth minimum before the bloom. They have some huge flowers. I have like 12 different ones now. 4 varieties. The first one is a pure red and I saved it. My mom got it as a gift for Xmas and after it bloomed she just threw the bulb out. I found it and repotted it. It bloomed on valentine's day. I call it my plant GF.

We also have moonflowers that grow all around our house. The local bees love them and I like going out in the evenings mid to late summer when they are all open cause they smell amazing.

I also like fermenting foods. Idk if that's considered not manly or anything but I like it and it's fun to me.

I am a crocheting and knitting guy also. Great de-stress activity that produces something tangible when you're finished.

Little things like liking flowers and nice smells shouldn't even be considered feminine really.

I want to wear a light dress one of these days... I did drag in the past but wearing a dress as "me" with no fake boobs, makeup, etc seems appealing.

This isn't gendered at all but I enjoy cultivating bonsai. And singing!

Talking about my feelings, gardening and taking care of kids. I am much softer/sweeter towards children and pets than my girlfriend anyway, which many people find strange or uneasy.

Since I am a man, everything I do is automatically manly

I love gardening. Not sure it's unmanly but maybe you're doing it different to me. I use lots of gravel, huge rocks, and power tools. No greenery to use them on, but they make a fantastic engine sound to disturb the neighbours and emit lovely fragrances of diesel fumes.

Really, though, a hand push mower changed my life and the cornflowers and sunflowers are growing nicely this year. I think I have a few China astors growing but I might've planted them too late. Coriander, basil, and mint have germinated on the kitchen windowsill nicely.

And the rose bush! I read that they can take a cutting and when they're cut will determine whether they grow big or grow flowers. Stems that grow from a cutting this year will just grow big. Stems that grow through winter because they're cut at the end of this year's flowering will flower next year. This bush had about 6 flowers on last year. This year, it has 20+ and lots of buds about to come through. They are thirsty, though, and I've been cheekily using a little rose feed.

The same food has brought into bloom some lavender plants, which I rescued last autumn.

What do you crochet? I've always loved embroidery but want to try some crochet. I bought an embroidery book from a charity shop. It's an encyclopedia with stitches, patterns, examples. It's from the sixties and the examples are fantastic. I'm saving up for a sewing machine and plan to make a few things from the book, then embroider some of the patterns on what I make. It can all be done by hand, but things like quilting will be much quicker and smoother with a machine, I'm hoping.

Down with gender stereotypes!!

Horses

I also love painting my nails as well as the occasional eyeliner 💅

For nail polish I don't even get harassed by strangers. That only occurs because of my overall "emo" aesthetic :/

Also my teacher deadass asked me how it came that I read a girls book after my book presentation. I didn't even know it was a girls book like it wasn't written anywhere😭😭 (I may have autism)

Since many have pointed out that gardening may also be considered "unmanly": I also love that as well as plants, nature and botanical gardens

My girlfriend recently got me into RuPaul’s Drag Race and I've been loving it. Never thought I would like it (still working on unlearning my misogynist/patriarchal upbringing…) but we’ve been binging a bunch of seasons of it. Literally spend half the episodes crying and the other half laughing pretty much. It’s so much fun and so emotional.

Got tickets to my first drag show in a couple months too so super excited for that!

i like music that tends to appeal to women but most guys wouldn't be caught dead listening to.. and I like to sing in a high pitch rather than lower

i do the laundry and the vacuuming in our house.. my partner is tiny and it's hard for her to vacuum and i don't mind it

Playing the flute