Have you set boundaries? If not set boundaries on what you need and want in a relationship, if he doesn't listen or doesn't respect it. Then it's time to move on. As someone who has had lots of previous relationships with people who don't respect my boundaries, it's incredibly important to set boundaries both ways.
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thanks so much!! i'll set boundaries. also, i noticed ur a system, so am i :D
There so much systems out there and open. Makes me feel less alone. :)
im glad there’s so many systems here :]
do u make separate accounts for your alters or no?? :)
You’ve been together three months, it’s long distance, and he doesn’t talk to you? I hate to say it, but what even is the relationship at that point? He clearly needs help with his mental health, but what can you do about it?
thanks 🫂
Your boyfriend is neglecting you emotionally, I’m afraid to say. It may not be on purpose but is happening either way and I believe it’s time to talk to him about it. It doesn’t have to be combative at all, you can simply tell him how you’ve been feeling and why it’s important to you.
Mental health is obviously important but he should want to make your needs a priority as well as his own. Maybe he isn’t in the head space right now to give you what you need, and I think it’s important to respect that as well.
If you talk to him and he still doesn’t make time for you, then it may be time to consider how long you’re willing to wait for him or if it might be time to end things and move on amicably.
thanks so much, i will
Wishing you both the best, it’s a tough situation. Please feel free to message anytime if you need a sounding board or need to vent.
thank you so much <33
More info needed in general. Is it an online multiplayer game? Then play it with him, problem solved lol
it's gta, probably, i don't game much but i could try it.
Play through the portal 2 co-op together and either: yall have fun and it's gonna be ok and you have something to build on, orrr dude acts like a dick to you the whole time and it's time to cut your losses.
thank you, he says he wants to play with me but says he doesn’t feel like he has time despite having time to play alone. i will try tho
Idk my dude ultimatums are never great but you can't chase this forever.
that’s fair, i’ll try and play with him or break up