Had a colleague who said that he's disgusted when another colleague talks about his boyfriend. He advocated it basically because he was imagining anal sex between them all the time.
Three years later, these colleagues are boyfriends 💞💞💞
this post was submitted on 18 Jun 2025
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This, folks, is a perfect example of projection. OP is a gay man and has worried that others judge him for his preference, so he judges others for the same thing.
The healthy thing of course would be to learn to let it roll off his back, and in calming that, he would calm his own worry about others judging him.
That strong anti natalist sentiment is palpable
People also say this when they are doing IVF and other fertility treatments. In fact every time I have heard this it involved fertility treatment because otherwise they just announce they are expecting.
It means they’re having bareback sex and the man orgasms while inside her.
Most of the time announcing a pregnancy or even just seeing kids at the park also means someone had sweaty bareback sex. Is it only bad when they announce it before the pregnancy?
What if they are trying to have a baby through in vitro fertilization? Your mind is what’s immediately going to sex. If someone is being more graphic in their description and talking about raw dogging and how often, then I think you have a case.
I don’t want to hear about people trying for kids either but I personally don’t care and just don’t engage in the conversation.
Yeah... Personally, I'd rather hear that a couple is trying for a baby over the bigoted shit I usually hear at work.
Sounds like something Hank Hill would get upset about.
"I'm going to go number 2" - Disgusting and graphic.
Yeah, no one needs to know your fella is rawdogging you regularly. Telling us when you're actually pregnant makes more sense.
What's the difference between "we're trying to have a baby" and "we've tried and we're having a baby"?
I don't think the statement is bad, but I can see why many wouldn't want to hear it in detail.
It's not that crazy, but it's a little uncomfortable to basically just be told that 2 people are rawdogging. It's nowhere near nausea inducing, and it's not really a sexual discussion. Would I rather not hear it? Of course. Is it that bad? Not really.
If someone uses that occasion to turn to you and ask if you’re ever going to have a kid, just respond with “not unless I’ve got ovaries on my tonsils!” And then somehow that’s a visit with HR.
THANK GOD someone else thinks this. I don't want to hear this at all. Ever.
Yeah I have 3 kids, never once did I go around telling people that I was trying to have kids. Of course I wasn't trying they just happen naturally.
Never understood that trying to have a baby thing. Seems weird to me. I assume all married couples either on birth control or having bareback sex. But then again don't hang around people who dicuss their sex life either.
More people than you might expect don't find it easy to conceive. That wasn't my experience (if anything it was "too quick") but I think sometimes people are asking you to hope/pray or whatever that they can make it happen.
Yeah everyone of my kids was conceived quickly. Why their mother got me fixed after the 3rd. I hated the pullout method and she didn't want anymore kids with me lol.
Could go even further and announce you're practicing how it's done. Even without trying for a baby. And like you're constantly getting better... Or lost 2 pounds due to the additional workout...
"Went to the doctor to put a load in a plastic cup so they could insert it with a medical tool."
"We are getting IVF treatment, so we froze some medically inseminated eggs to omplant mater, but wanted to sound like everyone else when saying we were trying because it is frustrating finding out getting pregnant is a lot more difficult for us than other people."
Are those better?
I'm the wrong person to judge. I'm completely indifferent. I'd say "good for you" but really couldn't care less. Unless that was my boss or mom or something...