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[–] miss_demeanour@lemmy.dbzer0.com 17 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I ~~ageree~~ agree, I think.

edited: spelling and ~~gtammer~~ grammar (added comma). (plus added punctuation)

[–] MartianSands@sh.itjust.works 13 points 1 week ago (1 children)

It's polite to justify and/or summarise an edit, because many platforms label edited posts and it helps reassure everyone that the conversation they're reading really happened.

There's a big difference between "edit to totally change what was said and make everyone responding to me look like fools or racists" and "edit to correct a typo"

[–] Zomg@lemmy.world 0 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Sure, but you can also just lie. No one lies on the internet.

Edit: grammar

[–] MartianSands@sh.itjust.works 6 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Sure you can, but there's a lot of etiquette which was originally supposed to signal trustworthiness which liars fake all the time. That doesn't stop it from being considered polite

[–] Zomg@lemmy.world 0 points 1 week ago (1 children)

How would you know someone lying though? It seems people need to rely on someone giving a reason for their edit? So it doesn't seem like they'd know otherwise, and if they could, then what's the point in the first place?

[–] MartianSands@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 week ago

The point is that people are going to see that the post was edited, because most platforms will tell them, and the poster is saying "yeah, it's edited. Don't worry, the meaning hasn't changed".

Asking how you'd tell if they were lying is really missing the point. It's not evidence being presented in a court of law, it's social etiquette.

Handshakes date from a time when the person you're meeting having a knife they intend to stab you with was a serious concern, so the custom of grasping each others dominant hand to say "look, I'm not holding a knife" became popular. Doesn't stop people from having a weapon in their other hand, but would you say handshakes are pointless?

[–] dulcetsunshine@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 1 week ago (2 children)

If seeing "Edited: grammar" wastes your "mental resources" that seems like a you problem.

[–] cactus_head@programming.dev 1 points 1 week ago

I think its more like they haven't gotten that much mental resources to begin with

[–] kSPvhmTOlwvMd7Y7E@lemmy.world -4 points 1 week ago

That's why I posted this, Cap

[–] grrgyle@slrpnk.net 5 points 1 week ago

That's good to hear, because I don't usually bother explaining my edits. I do, however, really appreciate it when other people do.

[–] Opinionhaver@feddit.uk 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Guess what I do with stuff I don't give a fuck about? I don't pay attention to it.

[–] kSPvhmTOlwvMd7Y7E@lemmy.world -2 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] Opinionhaver@feddit.uk 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

You can set a word-filter for that phrase and you don't need to see it ever again.

[–] kSPvhmTOlwvMd7Y7E@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

actionable advice , thanks

[–] Fleur_@aussie.zone 3 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

I feel like there is a small portion of people online who care deeply about grammar and its use. I think because they are so vocal about it that there's this false sense that it's immensely important to many people as opposed to like 5 people who get an eye twitch when you use "there" instead of "their.

Edi: obligatory grammar edit in a futile attempt at comedy

[–] nagaram@startrek.website 1 points 1 week ago

You missed a second quotation mark on "their." At the end their to.

[–] nagaram@startrek.website 1 points 1 week ago

I've only ever edited posts to keep going on a point. If my grammar or spelling mistakes are an issue in a conversation, then I'm probably arguing with someone who doesn't deserve my time honestly.

It's a forum. We're not debating at Cambridge. You don't deserve a second draft version only of my point.