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[–] 2ugly2live@lemmy.world 5 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

I'm an ugly woman and I remember getting a compliment from someone at dunkin. It was another woman, but she said I looked pretty. I think to this day she's the only person who has complimented me that wasn't a friend or something. πŸ˜…

I've had plenty of men yell out "huge bitch" and what have you though. πŸ€·πŸΏβ€β™€οΈ

[–] Classy@sh.itjust.works 2 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

I don't imagine they were quoting Deuce Bigalow?

[–] 2ugly2live@lemmy.world 2 points 17 hours ago

Some of them definitely were. They said it with the inflection and everything. πŸ˜‚

[–] krakenfury@lemmy.sdf.org 1 points 16 hours ago

One time a girl in a bar just walked up to me and asked if I wanted to make out. Of course, it happened after I was well into a relationship with the person who is now my wife, so I had to turn her down, but it felt amazing.

[–] TriflingToad@sh.itjust.works 3 points 21 hours ago* (last edited 21 hours ago)

in the psych ward because verbal abuse from my mom bc I'm trans (among other reasons),

"woah how that XXX left, there's only girls here!"

It's the sweetest thing anybody other than my sister has told me

"If I wasn't a lesbian, I'd 100% date you"

Normally, I'd write this off as someone "letting me down easy", but this was my best friend in High school that I knew for years, so I know the sentiment was genuine.

[–] Agent641@lemmy.world 18 points 1 day ago

"You smell so nice" - a gay female co-worker. I was wearing a new cologne that I purchased for myself. It was very expensive so I'm glad I chose well

[–] Nangijala@feddit.dk 11 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I give my man compliments all the time. He calls me silly and pretends he doesn't care, but I think it is working. Have been running a semi-non stop compliment campaign since Covid where I tell him how beautiful his hair is in the hopes he will cut it less. It's been a good while since he last came home looking like a sheep after shearing. Summer is approaching, though, so I'm bracing myself for him getting the idea to visit the barber and have him mutilate those beautiful locks of his. It should be crime, honestly.

[–] JackbyDev@programming.dev 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It's such a cruel thing that compliments from partners don't feel the same as compliments from strangers. My wife has been telling me parts of my body are attractive for agres, but I didn't really internalize it until I heard it from others as well.

[–] Nangijala@feddit.dk 5 points 1 day ago

It's the same phenomena as when your parents try to give you good advice but you will only listen to it if it comes from the mouths of "outsiders".

Example: my boyfriend tried to get me into Tool for ages and I was very indifferent to it. Then my closest colleague starts playing Tool at work and I'm like "omg this music is awesome" and I go home and tell my bf about this amazing new band I have gotten into and he just gets so offended like "I literally tried to get you into it for years wtf". We laugh about it sometimes.

[–] Jyek@sh.itjust.works 57 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (4 children)

Girls have a super power they can use to live rent free in any guy's head pretty much eternally. All they need to do is catch them off guard with a compliment.

A guy will keep a shirt until it literally disintegrates if one time a girl said "that color looks good on you." Pretty much every guy that wears a particular cologne, wears that cologne because at some point a girl said he smelled nice. It's not even a horny brain thing I don't think. It's just that guys get so few compliments on their appearance that every single one is massively precious to them.

[–] aeshna_cyanea@lemm.ee 17 points 1 day ago (2 children)

girls would do this more often but there's always the (justified tbh) fear that the guy will take it the wrong way and get weird about it :(

[–] QuantumSparkles@sh.itjust.works 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It goes both ways I think too. Guys wouldn’t obsess over the idea that a single compliment might be flirting if they were more used to compliments in general from both sexes. On the other hand some guys are so afraid of misreading a compliment or normal friendliness that they can’t tell when someone actually is flirting. I sort of think there need to be more voices out there meant to speak directly to men and masc people about social literacy that aren’t trying to turn them into hateful, violent, incel republicans.

[–] nylo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 hour ago

hard agree, it's a tragedy that toxic masculinity has taken over that space. I'm not the target audience being nb but I have a lot of respect for the Speeed yt channel for doing exactly that.

[–] ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It's absolutely justified fear. For every one guy who will just take it as a sweet compliment, there are ten guys who will think "she wants the D!"

[–] Malfeasant@lemm.ee 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Honestly I don't think the ratio is that bad... But it doesn't have to be, when just one creep can ruin your life...

[–] KingJalopy@lemm.ee 1 points 21 hours ago (1 children)
[–] Malfeasant@lemm.ee 1 points 6 minutes ago

Is that an order?

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[–] dumbass@leminal.space 15 points 1 day ago (1 children)

You deserve a blowjob.

That's kept me floating for years.

[–] Agent641@lemmy.world 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I hope you receive it one day πŸ™

[–] dumbass@leminal.space 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It's the thought that counts.

[–] RichardDegenne@lemm.ee 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] dumbass@leminal.space 6 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)
[–] Agent641@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago

It's the throat that counts

[–] chiliedogg@lemmy.world 24 points 1 day ago (3 children)

I was told blue looks good on me by a girl.

10 years later, most of my shirts are blue.

[–] peetabix@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 day ago

I hope she wasn't colour blind 😬

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[–] jaschen@lemm.ee 17 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Everytime the cashier flips the tablet over before a tip, they say a compliment. I always tip more than I usually do.

[–] Agent641@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago

They got you good

[–] sin_free_for_00_days@sopuli.xyz 134 points 2 days ago (23 children)

It's such a dichotomy. Women get catcalled every day and feel uncomfortable and harassed. Understandable. The average man gets catcalled a handful of times in his life and cherishes those moments almost as much as their children's births.

[–] LostXOR@fedia.io 87 points 2 days ago (4 children)

Doesn't even have to be catcalling; even a normal compliment is something we remember for a long time. I don't think I've been catcalled at all, though I'm not very attractive so I wouldn't expect to be.

[–] wesker@lemmy.sdf.org 57 points 2 days ago (3 children)

Oh. That made me uncomfortable. 😬

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[–] Flocklesscrow@lemm.ee 35 points 2 days ago

Anon's tombstone:

"She really liked my voice."

[–] gmtom@lemmy.world 25 points 2 days ago (2 children)

I don't remember basically anyone from my secondary schoold other than my 4 close freinds and this one girl that randomly asked me for a hug one day, said I give really good hugs, then basically never spoke to me again.

I get compliments on my hugs on the reg. Well, less regularly as I get older and meet new people less often, but still. Being a good hugger is somehow a weirdly rare skill?

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[–] BillibusMaximus@sh.itjust.works 48 points 2 days ago (1 children)

In 1998, the young lady working the cash register at the taco bell near where I worked told me I have really pretty eyes. So I have that going for me, which is nice.

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[–] Lv_InSaNe_vL@lemmy.world 20 points 2 days ago (5 children)

One time a buddy and I were out drinking and on our way out he ran into a childhood friend. So while they were catching up I was just leaning against a table and listening to their conversation and people watching.

A pretty attractive woman came up to me, looked me dead in the eyes, and said "you'd be more attractive if you had some self-confidence", and then walked out of the bar.

I think about that every day. Because I have never in my life been told I need "more confidence" (actually, it's usually the opposite haha).

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[–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 51 points 2 days ago (10 children)

I (afab) intentionally give my male friends and coworkers lots of non sexual compliments, and it’s been a mixed bag for people I don’t know well. I genuinely love men’s business wear, so I frequently go for a comment about what they’re wearing (think β€œI like your shirt” or β€œthat’s a cool pattern,” not β€œthat shirt makes your eyes pop” or β€œyou look sexy in that shirt”), and about a third of the time, they still seem to think I’m coming on to them. Since I got married and wear my wedding ring, that’s down to about a quarter.

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[–] GeeDubHayduke@lemmy.dbzer0.com 27 points 2 days ago (8 children)

I've received two compliments from women out of the blue in my life. The first time was when a coworker told me i had a nice voice and should do voice acting for anime. That was 2006.

The second was another coworker said "at least you're cute" to some offhand joke i made. That was 2018.

At that rate, I expect another nice comment around 2032 or so.

[–] Hadriscus@lemm.ee 2 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I had a girl compliment my voice too ! I was maybe 17, had her on the phone, she was a friend's friend. Then we met and she ostensibly lost all her excitement

[–] Malfeasant@lemm.ee 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Many years ago, my girlfriend's grandma said I had a good voice for radio. I misheard her, thought she said a good face for radio. I didn't react badly at the time, because being polite and all, but I didn't like her grandma for a while. Then it came out what she had really said, girlfriend had a big laugh. I don't remember what grandma thought of it, I was a little too embarrassed to have any attention to spare...

[–] Hadriscus@lemm.ee 1 points 41 minutes ago

hah ! misunderstandings sometimes have lasting effects on our lives

Oof, that hurts.

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[–] JokeDeity@lemm.ee 26 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I'm not saying anything about right or wrong or societies roles, but I don't even think it's hyperbole to say my wife has been complimented thousands of times more then I have in our lives. It's incredibly rare for me to get a compliment from a stranger, and even then it's usually from other guys saying they like some item I'm wearing. It really does feel fucking incredible when it happens because it's so insanely rare. And not to toot my own horn too much, but I'm not that bad looking, so I can't imagine what it's like for people with less fortune than I have in their appearance.

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