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some cool stuff also qualifies as either luck, brave or stupid; or a combination of those.

what's brave today maybe an embarassing thing that keeps you up at night later.

Think twice before lending money.

Don't push too hard to poop. Just try again later or take something to help it out.

Don't get entangled in interpersonal drama among the people you know. If someone comes to you with some petty bullshit about someone else, and you weren't there, don't take their word for it, don't repeat their story.

Never send an email or text that could get you in trouble later.

Get a dashcam. It's worth your whole car and everything in it.

weight loss is great but as you get older building muscle and strength is just as important - especially if you are female.

If you don't have a dream, do what makes money. Fuck what you enjoy.

Hobbies aren't careers and you don't want to end up 40 having never "found" yourself, suck working in a factory.

Source: long island doesn't have cliffs for me to drive off.

Always out matching money into your 491k.

As someone who thought they couldnt afford it. I could have. Just do it. I regret not doing it sooner so much.

Don't get fat. It is so hard to lose weight once you get over 40 years of age because you are fighting a reduced metabolism.

If she says she's on birth control but you haven't seen it, dont believe her. If she pressures you not to use a condom, don't consent.

Don't marry someone before you've known them well for a few years. Don't ignore red flags, such as them telling you that they see other people as pawns or them pressuring you to empty your 401k to put it into their financial/realestate schemes.

If your partner doesn't treat you with kindness and respect right now, then they are never going to, no matter how many times they say they will if you would only just do this or be that - nothing will ever be good enough for that kind of person, period, full stop. And, no, they won't change, no matter how much you do, and no matter how much you love them.

Do learn what "love bombing" is. Then find out if someone is grossly irresponsible with money or hiding a severe alcohol problem before you move in with them.

There are a lot of people in this world who will take advantage of your kindness and naivety, if you let them, so be mindful of how people treat you and those around them before you make commitments to them.

Not everyone is awful.

Edit to add: don't ignore your friends or family telling you that they think your relationship is unhealthy, or that the person is mistreating you or others, or may be taking advantage of you. Even if you don't have much respect for the person telling you this, stop and listen and reflect, because red flags don't stand out to you when you're wearing rosy tinted glasses.

Don't be afraid of therapy, especially if you have anxiety.

When your partner complains they can’t screw other people because you’re away for a week, you might be dating someone you can’t fully trust long-term.

If you’re good at something, even if you don’t enjoy it, it might still make a good career. You don’t have to love what makes you money, just not hate it. If you’re good enough, you end up with a lot more free time for yourself. Doing what you love can also cause you to hate doing it as a hobby eventually. People don’t “love” their jobs. You don’t see them paying to do their job like they do for tennis lessons or sports events. You probably just tolerate your job, and that’s ok. Your life isn’t ruined.

Stay away from even legal drugs if you realize they affect you differently from the norm / other people. You might end up spending a couple nights in a hospital.

Alcohol is not really good for your body or mind.

Don’t just go for a shallow understanding of concepts. Learn and reason through them completely in your own way and you’ll never forget them. You’ll also be better prepared to use and extend them.

A solid sleep schedule is good for building a routine. A crazy sleep schedule can make you more creative. Choose a balance.

Know how food impacts you. You maybe eating something that drains you for decades without even realizing it. Introduce things one by one and see how you feel and think.

What people think about you does matter to an extent. It’s good to have confidence in yourself, but you can also be overconfident. It’s also ok to be a little judgmental at times about things that are important to you. You don’t have to be a dick about it though.

Try to take a couple of minutes to look up at the sky every day. Whether it's pretty clouds or a cool plane or the moon and the stars. Seems too many people end up missing what's right over their heads