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That is super depressing
Why? Online spaces can be great places for strangers to meet in safety, especially introverts.
The reason online dating sucks isn't because of anything inherent to online dating but because of the profit motive.
But the profit motive is inherent to all the online dating apps. It's what decides how the algorithms work. There is no app for just meeting people seperate from that.
True, but I feel like they got much worse over the last 3-4 years. Before that they weren't trying to nickel-and-dime you for every single button press.
10 years ago when I met my partner online I didn't pay for anything.
It's definitely getting worse across the board with everything lately, that's true. 5-10 years ago online dating was probably a ton better.
I agree, if things were different they'd be different. However, things are like they are.
Well, that and because humans kinda suck in general.
Because I find the idea of letting some profit driven algorithm decide who you date, and the commodification of dating, a bit sad.
Isn't that what real life is anyway? Bars have a profit motive (and incidentally they're going up to). And your circle of friends, family, coworkers is primarily profit driven too by the job you have, the social class of your family, etc. If anything, online dating has helped expand the pool as you can actually find people with similar interests and likes outside of a small circle you previously had access to that may not have anyone in.
Because OP has friends but no Internet. They're dating like it's 1999
at least people with similar interests are meeting eachother
Are they though? Isn't loneliness at an all time high among young people in industrialised nations? Could the commodification of relationships though apps be a possible reason for that?