this post was submitted on 11 Aug 2025
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I want to be dating a guy, and for him to randomly show up at my door with flowers. Maybe some nice chocolates too but really just to show up one day, knock at my door and offer me a bouquet of flowers. Perhaps carefully chosen to show that he’s listened to me, but even just a random allotment of roses that he got from Walmart.

Edit: I’m a gay dude btw

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[–] captain_aggravated@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I have always hated gifting a woman cut flowers. "Here's some recently killed things." I'd rather give a potted plant.

[–] violetsoftness@piefed.blahaj.zone 1 points 2 days ago (1 children)

that's your prerogative but you're also gifting them a lot of responsibility and chores with that so you know make sure that's something they are into first.

Plants don't have nervous systems and don't feel pain when cut, they are a renewable resource and some types of plants suffer no harm by the cutting of flowers. Every woman i have given flowers to has been delighted by it and I have been delighted to receive them myself!

[–] captain_aggravated@sh.itjust.works 1 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Going to be a bit blunt, the way the gifts I've given the women of my life were just taken for granted, I don't gift anymore.

well i'm sorry to hear that, I will hope that you receive more kindness in the future