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I want to be dating a guy, and for him to randomly show up at my door with flowers. Maybe some nice chocolates too but really just to show up one day, knock at my door and offer me a bouquet of flowers. Perhaps carefully chosen to show that he’s listened to me, but even just a random allotment of roses that he got from Walmart.

Edit: I’m a gay dude btw

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[–] andros_rex@lemmy.world 2 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I’ve had two exes that I told explicitly I’d love flowers, and never got them. Over seven years of my relationship with my ex-husband, never once.

[–] sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Maybe you are my proverbial missed connection:

Every gal I've dated seriously, unprompted, I would surprise them with flowers, chocolates, charcuterie boards...

... listen to all those actually actionable, verbally dropped hints, and followed up on them...

... and not all, but almost all of them, either physically, financially, and/or emotionally abused me, and/or cheated on me (in what was ostensibly a monogamous, non polyamorous relationship).

Maybe we are now both... different sides of the same coin, kind of disappointed and tired, lol?