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how do i stop being so obsessed with a fictional character? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 1 week ago by classybattery@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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i really like a fictional character so much it hurts and i have this friend who i make stories with with that character and she's the only one who likes him as much, probably more than me. i don't want to be that way.

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[–] inzen@lemmy.world 10 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I'm not saying this is the best advice, but maybe it resonates with you. Find a non fictional character or any subject that seems interesting. If there is a person that seems cool and has a biography try reading/listening/watching that. By doing this you broaden you horizon a little and that itself should give you a slightly changed view on your own fictional character. In this way you and you character can evolve together and that may also change your relationship with the character. As others have mentioned, joining a group activities like sports, volunteering, debating club, etc can also be beneficial. TLDR: Broaden your horizons. Try to interact with new people and new ideas/views.

[–] onslaught545@lemmy.zip 2 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (1 children)

This is just shifting addictions to another unhealthy parasocial relationship.

Someone with this type of issue needs to shift their focus to something different than idolizing a person, fictional or not.

[–] otter@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

We might also do them a favor and keep in mind that we're not trained therapists, psychologists, or similar mental health pros of any kind... IANAPsych, et al. 🥲🤌🏼