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My good friend is really cool. He's basically a super nerd scientist guy. Despite having a ton of knowledge, he's humble af, I've known him for years before I knew how high his educational qualifications go.

My friend just married someone with a nice job and a bougie family. I'm happy for my friend, I couldn't give a fuck if all her convos revolve around past holidays, resorts, and pricey drinks. My friend is happy and and he feels secure with this woman, and I'm glad that things are going well for him.

My friend and his wife keep trying to organise double dates. I guess it feels natural, to bring us into the wider family. But what happens is that the men and women separate and have their own conversations. My gf finds this woman boring af, bragging about all the countries she's traveled and nice places she's been isn't really interesting. I wonder if posh people are so used to talking to service workers and underlings who are required by their job to please them, that they have no idea how fucking boring they are.

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[–] came_apart_at_Kmart@hexbear.net 5 points 4 weeks ago

A long time ago I stayed a month with my friend in their small town in China. It was very hard but it was the best time of my life. My mandarin has never been so good.

exactly. seeing how people are living is a big one. obviously, it's just one person or the people in a residential area, but that's real compared to staying in the Hyatt where the only locals you see are being paid to make sure you want for nothing while appearing happy.

after a while, rich tourists people equate the culture of a place with the quality of service they experience. "the people are rude" is usually code for "i wandered outside of the playpen and had an interaction with someone outside the tourism sector."