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Do women wish they had male characteristics? (lemmings.world)

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Hi, I identify as a gay man for now and I feel disconnected from womanhood, but my body is female. I want to know how normal it is for women not to be comfortable in their own bodies and wish they had bodily characteristics of a born male. I've felt that way ever since I was eight or seven, so it got me thinking that I could have known I was a boy even then.

I wanted to cut my hair short because it looked more boyish and I hated being called "girly". I wanted to be accepted among the guys and I considered myself just a "tomboy".

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[–] schmorpel@slrpnk.net 2 points 19 hours ago

There were times where I was more boyish, and times where I liked being girly. On average I prefer being boyish but mostly because I don't want to make an effort to fulfil the expectations of being girly - I can't really bring myself to care about fashion, makeup, hairdos and all that. I never really had a problem with the body I was born with. I never wanted to have a dick. All in all I just don't want to have any work with looking a certain way or defining my identity around bodily characteristics.

Then again, while not caring at all about which body I happen to have been born into, I find the inner limitations of having been brought up as a woman really problematic - the making oneself smaller, learning how to be quiet and demure, the not being as convinced of oneself as guys tend to be, the not being taken seriously. But that's nothing to do with the body and everything to do with the mind and my upbringing.