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Do women wish they had male characteristics? (lemmings.world)

submitted 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) by throwaway789@lemmings.world to c/tooafraidtoask@lemmy.ml

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Hi, I identify as a gay man for now and I feel disconnected from womanhood, but my body is female. I want to know how normal it is for women not to be comfortable in their own bodies and wish they had bodily characteristics of a born male. I've felt that way ever since I was eight or seven, so it got me thinking that I could have known I was a boy even then.

I wanted to cut my hair short because it looked more boyish and I hated being called "girly". I wanted to be accepted among the guys and I considered myself just a "tomboy".

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[–] Lumidaub@feddit.org 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

"Normal" doesn't matter, "normal" is what most people do, it's according to the norm, it's not a synonym for "good" or "healthy". Wishing you had different external gender characteristics may not be "normal" but that doesn't mean it's bad if you do. Just that the average (cis) person doesn't feel that way. I personally sometimes think it would be nice to not be treated as "female" but as "default" (which is male, let's be honest) but the reasons are societal rather than any inherent discomfort with my own body.