Relationship Advice
Welcome to the Relationship Advice community on Lemmy and Kbin!
The ideal place to ask for help with your relationships: romantic, friendships, we don't know what we are yet, co-workers or just human interactions in general.
Please make sure you read our rules before posting.
Rules:
Rules can be clicked on to be expanded.
1: Treat all users with respect. [!]
The goal of this community is helping OP and readers, not making fun of them. We are an inclusive community, any sort of disrespect towards ethnicity, sexual orientation, religion, etc, will not be tolerated.
2: Mark sexual content as NSFW. [!]
Posts containing mentions or descriptions of sexual topics must be tagged as NSFW. This includes descriptions of sexual acts, requests for advice in the bedroom, explicit descriptions of your body and similar content.
3: All posts must be a request for advice.
All posts must be phrased as a request for advice or as a question. Sharing of stories, personal anecdotes, or past mistakes are only allowed if they're followed by a clear and relevant request for advice with the situation.
4: Provide sufficient and relevant information.
Your title and body need to contain enough information relevant to your situation, such as ages, genders, and the relationship between people mentioned. For privacy-related concerns, we recommend using fake names and broad general locations.
5: Comments must be on topic and relevant to OP.
Comments must be directly related to helping OP, asking for more information, providing relevant resources or otherwise relevant to the thread. Off-topic comments and remarks, suspicious attempts at gathering personal data from OP or other readers, or bullying will not be tolerated.
6: This is a community for requesting advice, not moral judgement.
Moral judgements, "AITA?" and other similar questions are better served by different communities.
Reddit reposts are allowed.
As a temporary measure and the result of a poll, Reddit reposts are allowed following an expanded set of rules: https://lemmy.world/post/317115
How are rules enforced and bans applied?
For the most part, this community operates under the assumption that users are acting in good faith and should be given second-chances for their mistakes. Posts and comments with very light rule violations, or otherwise undesired but mostly harmless content, can be removed by a moderator on a case by case basis without any further punitive actions.
For violations of our rules, we follow a “3 strike” system as follows:
-
1st violation: 72 hours ban + moderator warning via PMs.
-
2nd violation: 1 week ~ 1 month ban + final warning via PMs.
-
3rd violation: 1 month ~ permanent ban.
The goal of this system is making sure users are made aware of their behavior before being permanently banned, but also protecting the community from any rule violations.
Exceptions:
While the “3 strike” system will be applied to the majority of situations, rules marked with a [!] in the sidebar signifies a rule that, if violated in an intentional, malicious or significant way, can warrant an immediate permanent ban regardless of the number of previous violations. This includes severe disrespect to users or groups, dangerous content, and similar.
Related communities:
-
Adulting: !adulting@lemmy.world
-
No Stupid Questions: !nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
-
Mental Health !mentalhealth@lemmy.world
view the rest of the comments
awwwwww. he texts every day but still 😭 😭 my bf says he loves gay ppl tho so maybe he likes me, he also thinks most women are boring and that men are less boring
Hmmm. Yeah, I'd recommend looking for ways to discuss the issue; be direct and blunt as you can, without malice though.
Also, try not to say "you made me feel"; frame it instead as "I find myself feeling this" type language.
i talked to him and he just said “i dunno 🤷♂️ i dunno” The whole time
Oof.
Well, at the least, he may still be coming to terms with how he feels about your transition. But, when I was twenty years younger, I was more self centered than I realized at the time. Society crams this idea down guys' throats that it's the only way to be a "man".
Sometimes relationships don't work out. We never want to see it, and unfortunately we often go into denial and insist on trying to force something after the "spark" has faded.
First, take a bit of time to self reflect; how do you really feel about all these things? About the relationship? It'll take courage and emotional fortitude. And I'm not saying you need to give up! Just, take the time to be honest with yourself first, otherwise you can't be honest with someone else.
Best of luck, and wish for you the courage and strength to find the right path!
maybe, tysm!!! Idk why he thinks women and lesbians are boring but men, specifically gay men like me aren’t