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i dont want to live but my s...ide might hurt my friends' feelings | tw suicide (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 1 week ago by sundae@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/depression_now@lemmy.world

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(sorry for my english, this is not my 1st language)

i dont want to live, but recently i've read on wiki that s..ide of somebody affects on average 6 folks that knew the victim of s..ide, and now i think that i just cant k.. myself because this might hurt my friends' feelings, and i dont want them to feel bad because of me. and now i dont know what should i do. i really dont like my life and im tired of anything, but at the same time i cant just leave all my friends alone w/ their own depression and just leave this world. i just dont want be the reason of anybody's progression of depression.

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[–] FRYD@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I can relate to that pretty well. I still struggle with that internal conflict. If you’re a person who cares about the people in their life and understands pain and never wants to spread it like me, I don’t think there’s a satisfying resolution to it.

It’s not totally healthy and a therapist likely wouldn’t recommend it, but I’ve over time learned to hold on really tightly to the love I feel for the people around me to keep going and helping others is sometimes the only peace I ever get.

If you feel like you can’t end it now that you fear hurting the people you care about, you should take that care further and talk to them. Ask them how they’re doing and what are their struggles. Instead of fearing if you’ll add to their pain, try to help alleviate some of it. You may not be able to solve their problems, but you can listen to them, let them feel heard and let them know you want to understand. Just that means a lot to people and when you see how it improves their mood, it’ll feel good and it’ll feel like you have at least a tiny bit purpose in the world.

Edit: I just noticed you said English isn’t your first language and I honestly didn’t even notice. You write more clearly than most natives I know.