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How long was your longest grieving period after a breakup? (lemmy.dormedas.com)

submitted 1 day ago by luxyr42@lemmy.dormedas.com to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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[–] rabber@lemmy.ca 4 points 22 hours ago* (last edited 22 hours ago) (1 children)

Divorced at 30 after 9 years, just a few months ago, and I don't think I'll ever get over it

Lost the majority of my friends in the process too because they took her side

Don't really think guys can recover from this. Making friends in my 30s is not ever going to be the same level of connection as the ones I made in high school/college

[–] Mesophar@pawb.social 4 points 21 hours ago

I got divorced from a 10+ year relationship in my late 20s, and then had a nasty, bad breakup from my first relationship after at 30. I had a small group of friends that stuck around, but lost many in the process of each breakup.

I never really kept in touch with people from highschool and earlier, though, so I can't comment on them

Things do get better. At 35 I'm now in a better relationship than I ever had before. I have new friends and new circles. A new chapter in my life was started, and things are better than they ever have been before.

I don't know if this will work for you, maybe it doesn't work out sometimes. But guys can, and do, recover from it.