Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
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Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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Hello!
I have the same worry, despite great experiences like yours being accepted. Here's what I tell myself:
Having grown up around men being creepy to and about women, it's natural to be a bit wary. But that's not you. I've met quite a few pre-transition MTF people now, some of whom appeared very masculine, and it's immediately apparent that it's a non-threatening interaction. I guess it's unconscious body language, or something like that. Men being creepy tend to seek attention from women as a man.
Anyway, there's a group of women friends I meet up with from time to time (since well before I hatched) who were the first non-family I came out to. They're so accepting and affirming, I usually end up in happy tears at the end of the evening.
Still (probably irrationally) scared of using the women's bathroom in case I make someone uncomfortable, though.
Kinda curious how often women suspect men are gay because they don't see as threatening as other men.
I know what you mean. Sad, though, that it's such an easy assumption to make, and reinforces toxic masculinity.