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Yup. I'm glad I had this cool as Caribbean co-worker who now and again would "teach me the facts of the world" when I first entered the workforce
The world ain't fair, you gotta play the game. It saved me so much learning through failure - sometimes you gotta slow down so you have room to pull a miracle out of your ass. Sometimes you gotta play it close to the vest. Manage their expectations and they'll be grateful, give them your all and they'll only ask for more
It's so very true. I add at least an hour, if not a day, before I commit something - unless it's an emergency. Then I pull out the stops and drink a pot of coffee, and they worry about losing me, because my normal pace is enough that they get new features and when the chips are down and they're losing money I'll find fix it today, if not tomorrow morning
You have to know when to drag your feet, when to pull out the stops, and what you need to keep to yourself. They don't care that I keep my mornings for myself, don't come to meetings, and occasionally can't be reached for a day... To then I'm a miracle worker, not a workhorse. They're happy with my output, because I balk at anything that takes more than 5 minutes and under promise, then over deliver. But when they're panicking, I tell them I'll make it work no matter what it takes. And I still wait an hour if it didn't take me all night
People beat workhorses to make them go faster, they fear losing a magician. Magicians are eccentric. They're allowed to demand accommodations - but you have to keep up the mistique. Otherwise you're just a flawed workhorse, because people are kinda stupid, managers and owners especially so
A workhorse seems replaceable, even if they're better than the magician
It's a learned skill... I've fucked it up in the past and broke the illusion by coming through too quickly once it became an emergency. But if you have knowledge they don't, they don't know what takes how long anything takes, even technical people. You have to play it up, because once the magic is broken for any reason, you're now a lazy workhorse
Humans are fucking dumb. Manage expectations properly and reality is secondary, optics are everything.