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a lot of the time, i’m either busy doing something where i literally cannot respond or overstimulated.

when i’m overstimulated, i physically cannot talk or barely register what someone’s saying. i also have trouble understanding out loud speech for some reason, where i’m listening but can’t process the words.

when my sister asks or says something, i often ask her to repeat it because it’s a lot of information. she says something like “never mind, you don’t care anyway, it’s not important” when i ask to be repeated.

she doesn’t care when i told her why i need it to be repeated.

she also thinks i’m mad at her all the time, gets frustrated when i don’t talk (because im incapable), and starts talking badly about herself when i don’t laugh at her humor (which consists of loud screeching and tiktok “brainrot” words)

since then, i decided to feign laughter so she’ll not think i’m upset with her.

i do try to be there for my sister, but there’s times where i cannot or just can’t talk.

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[–] reallyzen@lemmy.ml 11 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

By taking care of her. Take initiative, propose movies / games / ice-creams whatever. Things you like, things you think she'll like. She's having a hard time reaching out to you, do your best to reach out to her.

It's not your fault, but it isn't hers either. Try to have fun together, she'll get to know how you work and you don't one step at a time.

[–] drbollocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 2 hours ago

i will, thank you so much. i told her she could watch tv with me. would it be rude to tell her to stop playing screaming videos because i don’t like those videos ?