The first act of violence that patriarchy demands of males is not violence toward women. Instead patriarchy demands of all males that they engage in acts of psychic self-mutilation, that they kill off the emotional parts of themselves. If an individual is not successful in emotionally crippling himself, he can count on patriarchal men to enact rituals of power that will assault his self-esteem.

For any men near the beginning of their journey to adopt of a more healthy masculinity, The Will To Change by bell hooks is an excellent read

[–] MiraculousMM@hexbear.net 25 points 7 months ago (13 children)

If anyone's interested in reading through it with others, we have a book club going for this book right now! It's a fantastic read so far and we just started!

[–] otter@lemmy.dbzer0.com 11 points 7 months ago (12 children)

Yeah, but ...hexbear? Ferreal? 🫣

[–] MiraculousMM@hexbear.net 18 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Everyone involved in the book club is taking it seriously and we've had great discussions so far without any irony poisoning. You don't need to be a commie or an anarchist to get a lot out of the experience, we just want more people who will earnestly engage with the work.

[–] otter@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 points 7 months ago

I might, in all honesty, and thank you. I'll have to go find how thoroughly I've blocked that instance (TIL: my filters are not fully synced between devices), but I appreciate knowing this is out there, at the least.

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