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How do you deal with autism stigma? (lemmy.autism.place)
submitted 3 months ago by VanHalbgott@lemmy.autism.place to c/askautisticpeople@lemmy.autism.place
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I’ve been stigmatized by many people throughout my life because I involuntarily do things they often criticize me for because they think I’m doing it all on purpose but I’m not.

People stigmatize me because they aren’t very accepting of me or they blame me for my actions claiming I should be responsible for them or they treat me like a regular person who they think tolerates what they call discipline even though they don’t understand.

What do I think? At the end of the day, it’s all about what you believe in: nobody’s wrong about anything, everyone could’ve handled it better even if they’re doing the best they can, and personally I think other people don’t define who you are whether they know you or not because it’s hard to tell anymore what is right or wrong…at least that’s what I’m told.

Even arguing with my parents produces stigmatic responses because I did something unusual in front of them: everyone I run into does that, and I didn’t even do it on purpose.

But they do tell me some good advice though, and while they’re not perfect they’re not bad.

I bring this up because I argued with my father at home before we calmed down and apologized to each other and made up for it.

No other person has that deep a relationship besides some friends and families I know from another place, and while religion is unpopular on Lemmy I follow Christianity which gives my life a purpose and a better meaning than just personal success like everyone else.

No one’s perfect, but everyone’s fine that way.

Who else faces autism stigma daily like me?

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[–] Flax_vert@feddit.uk 2 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

This is actually quite interesting compared to my experience here in the UK. I find a group of friends in Church a lot who are on the spectrum, like theology nerds and such, plenty are converts as well. Churches here generally appeared to follow sound COVID guidance and concentrate more on ethics rather than flat out "vote for xyz". You sure there aren't any churches you can find where you are? It is always important to go to Church.

[–] VanHalbgott@lemmy.autism.place 2 points 3 months ago

I really like this comment…thank you, but last time I went to church my family and I left because people were staring at us a lot.

But I was baptized in a church once though and that turned into my saving grace because years later I converted myself to religion and took up reading my Bible and praying often because I find that religion is more fulfilling than anything else in the world I live in.

It just so happens I serve God differently because I can’t handle church or gospel unless I practice my religion in private.