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Couple therapy? (lemmy.dbzer0.com)

submitted 2 days ago by Leax@lemmy.dbzer0.com to c/askuk@feddit.uk

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I'd like to start a couple therapy with my partner. I'm not too sure where I should look, if it's a good idea to do that online or if I should aim at having it in person. Any good website you recommend? I would love to hear your experiences as well. I'm in South London. Thanks!

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[–] infjarchninja@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 day ago (2 children)

It is very telling for me that you say; I’d like to start a couple therapy, and not we would like.

I am a retired psychotherapist. Sorry for being picky.

you can try here for a therapist. search for therapists that specialise in couples therapy:

https://www.psychotherapy.org.uk/find-a-therapist/?Distance=10

https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/

This is the best one for sure. But I would say that.

The Metanoia Institute.

https://metanoiatherapy.com/metanoiatherapists

Do avoid any online therapy.

People are more than a face on a screen. How do online therapists see involuntary body movements and body responses during the therapeutic session. They dont!

[–] Leax@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 1 day ago

Ha ha you're right! It's something we've discussed for a couple of years at least, but we've actually never made the first step. After an argument yesterday, I thought I would make that first step, and I hope my partner still agrees it's a good idea. Thank you for these resources that's extremely helpful!

[–] Leax@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Sorry, did you mean to say that the Metanoia institute is the best one?

[–] infjarchninja@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 day ago

Hello Leax

I did recommend them.

However, I am very biased because I did a lot of training there in the late 90's.

I have always found that therapists trained at the Metanioa Institute to be a little more exacting in their approach to therapy.

I have a look at their training process.

One of the original founders of the Metanoia Institute was Petruska Clarkson. unfortunately she passed away in 2006. I first met her on a training day where she was teaching protective identification.

she has written many fabulous books about Transactional Analysis and Gestalt.

[–] mannycalavera@feddit.uk 6 points 1 day ago

I'd second this. That's where me and my husband started.

I'd also recommend to move on to another therapist if you're not gelling with your current one. There's no rule saying you need to stay with the same one. If you feel you're not being listened to, end the session and find another therapist.

[–] tetris11@feddit.uk 4 points 1 day ago

The Oakland clinic helped me out a while back

[–] Trebuchet@europe.pub 4 points 1 day ago

This is a good place to start, I'd say:

https://www.bacp.co.uk/