@SoyViking@hexbear.net I meant to reply to you in last week's chat but never got the chance. You mentioned that your daughter was excited to join the military via mandatory service, but otherwise her politics were good. My kids are much younger than yours, but I obsess (a bit too much) about how they will turn out. If she's got generally good politics, do you have any advice, maybe some things you did that helped point her in the right direction?
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I'm so sick and tired of the glacial speed everything moves with when you're trying to get professional help for your kid's ADHD but they're not completely fucked up yet. If you do reasonably okay in school and don't cause too much trouble is practically impossible for anything to happen. God forbid we addressed issues before they became problems.
I saw a meme about this saying you pretty much get to experience ADHD unmediated as long as you keep getting good grades. Your actual experience with it doesn't matter
I fucking hate all the stupid plastic presents people buy and the ritual of opening them
I've been thinking about this a lot recently. I try to avoid cheap plastic toys and yet my house is filled with them. I have parents and in-laws that will still buy them too much stuff, there's birthday party goodie bags, etc. Throwing it away doesn't help the environment and charity stores don't want most of it (can't blame them). It's both a quantity and quality issue for me. It reminds me of when Marx talks about how distant societies cannot avoid capitalism - it's a global system that must expand everywhere. It feels like amassing all these plastic toys feels on some level like an extension of that; constantly expanding commodity production that has to go somewhere, environmental degradation be damned.
Agree. The latest one was this cheap water table from amazon, it was like two feet tall and had like literally 50 little pieces. It is already broken and pieces lost. And I hate it. I hate the waste. I hate that it lasted like 10 days. I hate that I had to put it together. I hate that I had to recycle the box. I hate that I have to dry out the pieces. I hate that it was a waste of money. I hate that I have to send a photo of him playing with it all together and keep it around in case they come visit.
I should be super grateful and just happy but like just ask me what he wants and we can do one big gift. Egh.
Are you talking about those things that are designed for an "unboxing" experience? I'm lucky so far that my kid hasn't been too interested in them.
No, I'm taking about literally receiving any presents at all and making opening then a big performance.
Where I'm at, it's very normal to not open presents if there are any (it's also normal to have a no presents party). Instead the kid receiving gifts opens them after everyone leaves. I'm not sure where it started but I like it.
I'm lucky that most of the parents at my kid's preschool put "no presents please" on birthday invitations lol
How many 3d printed dragon chains do you own, be honest?
Baby Beaver unexpectedly sits up on her own this week, which is wonderful.
That's exciting!
Gearing up for a vacation in a couple of weeks. First time where both kids have their own seat. Traveling is stressful but the kids take to it well. Feeling less great about flying these days... But it's the only efficient way to go see family.
Them having their own seats will be a game changer!
Feeling less great about flying these days... But it's the only efficient way to go see family.
I tried the train for long distance travel, but it's not a great option in 
tbh. Sucks that flying (or driving??) seems like the only viable options here.
I want to talk about a big news story in Australia that's broken about the childcare sector. I feel like people here will be more understanding of the issue but I can remove this if it's not appropriate.
[CW: CSA]
Some shit going down in Australia
A massive news story has broken in Australia that a male childcare worker had sexually abused a bunch of kids, and was putting his bodily fluids in the food when he apparently had a bunch of STIs.
There has been the typical kneejerk reaction from some of the state governments here, but nothing that's going to fix the problem. One state has made it you can't appeal a Working With Children's Check if it gets rejected. This guy was able to get all his certificates without issue, so how will removing the ability to appeal help?
I'm worried it will be an excuse to expand the surveillance state instead of fixing for profit childcare and lack of mental health services. I've seen other stories before of centres hiring unqualified people and ignoring sexual abuse because they need the staff.
Stories like this bring out the typical facebook and TalkBack radio responses, and of course no one wants to look at why this happens and actually focus on stopping the next case of abuse. It just becomes a fantasy about enacting violence on someone that deserves it.
I've thought about it, and the reality is I wouldn't know or be able to stop it if anything happened to my kids. We put a lot of trust into these centres to look after our children because the demands of capital force us to. Harsher punishments and surveillance don't work, we need to get these people support before they offend so it doesn't happen to start with.
Death to capitalism, death to the for profit childcare sector and all that have enabled it.
The other aspect is police ignoring complaints, like what occurred with Ashley Paul Griffith in Queensland.
Opportunistic child sexual abuse is much more common than pedophilia existing prior to CSA being committed - the former can be addressed by physical design and appropriate staffing levels to ensure that it is very difficult to have the opportunity to offend.
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