Asklemmy

I joined a men's group and started working through my trauma.

Flip the table. Anger. Disgust. Judgment. Indifference.

If you want to be nice you can always keep your doors open to resolution. But it makes no sense whatsoever to give away mental and emotional real estate for free to donkeys and assholes. It's simply too valuable and you should cherish it for yourself.

You might think indifference is the weakest of what I've mentioned. But being ignored is extremely painful. Aurelius wrote that this is the default goto if you don't have a witty comeback.

As I have gotten older, I have learned to realize that there are people who can not forgive and can not forget. They are the most negative-nellies, and will judge you and most likely themselves bad for just being human. I still listen to them, that's basic human respect. I don't let their words tear me down, that's basic self respect.

"What we got here is, a failure to communicate. Some men you just can't reach." - Cool Hands Luke.

I like to pretend that I'm inherently superior to them :)

Wish I could help with the strategy. I don't deal with this in any way, I genuinely don't care if someone likes me or not. I actually don't think about it. I understand this can be a problem and mess with one's confidence in a situation like yours, but the numbers speak for themselves - you are in a good place.

I prefer to be liked as opposed to being disliked but I take pride when certain people dislike me

These 5% of negative reviews probably has nothing to do with you. There's always a small amount of people unhappy for random or unrelated reasons (broke up with boy/girlfriend, car broke, etc) and who would write negative reviews no matter what. It's possible they cannot dissociate the course from other things happening in their life. They just happened to be unhappy at that time, and felt like leaving a nasty review.

Are you fucking serious? Did you never get bullied in school as a kid or something? Are you that privileged? What the fuck.