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Why never on life, just asking. If it was completely ruined from the start, why not give up? If you spill ink over a painting, it's ruined and you toss it out.
It's practically impossible to fix a painting covered in ink. It's never too late for a life to change.
No one has ever fixed their lives after 20. It only gets worse if you're not rich as a teenager or popular online before then. Everything after 20 is just drug addiction and fighting. And even if someone manages to fix their lives later, it's always in old age where it wouldn't have mattered. Yeah... all that work and uphill grinding for one week of freedom, sooooo worth it.
I think no one has their life together at their twenties. At your thirties things start to calm down, and gives you the oppertunity to organise your life. Only then you know who you are and what you want from life, and then you can change up your life for it to be what you want it to be.
Everyone else does between 15 and 19, they have their own houses and cars they bought with their jobs, yet I'm almost 30 and I have nothing. Everyone else is getting married at 23. At 30 I'll still be trying to move out just like I will be at 50, and 80, and after retiring I'll still be trying to move out by gambling or grinding online stuff until I die in the house I'll stuck in. Might as well cut my losses.
No they don't. It just looks like it. At 30 the things they found important at 18 aren't important anymore. Priorities shift.
I literally know no-one that was married at 23.
Just like a lot of people of this generation. They are fucked by housing prices.
So you're not alone in this. I think most people are in a similar situation. Try to find people that can support and help you. Just don't give up, you never know what happens tomorrow.