I am the only user of my Fediverse instances. Therefore, this shows that I value the people I trust to be part of my life over changing or taking action regarding their bad behavior that I do not accept.

To have someone join my instance, I must not be the only one to be the admin. Others need to be the same as me too, as partners sharing instance rules and policies, but I haven't found one yet.

Even my friends prefer popular apps over my Fediverse. They love Instagram. So, what to do? They just have to go on with them. They get confused about the things in the Fediverse I join; they don't understand the Fediverse. I tried to explain to them, but they still didn't join.

My cool DNS domains that I own—they just think they're another website. Yeah, I haven't found another admin yet.

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There are two kinds of people that I found.

The first kind is the people who rebel against God.

That first kind also has two types.

The first type disagrees and rebels against God; they will tell others that they do not agree with God. The other type claims they are being kind and peaceful and do follow God's words, while they are acting rebelliously toward God.

The second kind of person I found is people who actually worship and submit to God. If they push their limits, including doing what God forbids or something sinful, they repent to God.

Which kind of partner do you choose to be with? I choose the second one. You?

Days, weeks, or months ago (if that's correct), I subscribed to a managed hosting service.

One of the apps is Lemmy, which I use more frequently than other apps like micro-blog.

Firstly, I paid less than the monthly price because it was days to weeks before the first fixed due date: June 1st.

Then, I was saving my money and doing some business by helping my mother sell and market her gardening materials.

A few days before the first due date, I had more than enough to cover the upcoming major managed hosting service fees.

In Lemmy, it's easier for me to assess whether my opinions or knowledge are compatible or agreeable with the public, partly because of the upvotes, downvotes, scores, and upvote percentage features.

I also experienced in Lemmy that there are many differing opinions; some genuinely support me, while others using Lemmy made me think they need to improve their online attitude and behavior.

I also have the idea or suggestion that Lemmy developers should make a built-in poll feature available, where the poll could include options such as: only local Lemmy instance users can vote (for example, for instance rule changes and policies), and another option allowing users from Lemmy software, whether local or fediverse, to vote.

My Fediverse lifelong journey is still my choice. I find that those very popular social networks aren't relevant for me, such as Reddit, Instagram, Facebook, and X. They are not relevant for me.

It's because they're closed source; I can't view or audit them fully. I have to trust their reputation and terms of service alone.

Paying for managed hosting is awesome because these Fediverse or ActivityPub protocol software and even the client apps are usually free, libre, and open source (FLOSS). At least this gives me a chance to own or rent them as I see fit, instead of blindly following big tech.

Thank you for reading my long essay. Yes, I used AI to correct my grammar.

• My savings for the 1st July due:

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Summary

• Why I Blocked Certain External Communities on Lemmy
• As a user and admin of Kadai Kupi Space, I recently chose to block some external Lemmy communities from my profile.
• This decision isn’t driven by drama or bitterness; it’s grounded in my commitment to my own instance’s principles—particularly ethical moderation and fair treatment of users who utilize AI tools.
• I was banned or removed from certain communities with vague reasons like “AI spam,” despite their guidelines not mentioning AI-generated content as spam or explicitly prohibiting AI use.
• Our community guidelines emphasize:
  • §8.1 — Moderation should be fair and proportionate; targeted deletions or punishments without clear rule violations are discouraged.
  • §8.2 — We defend users who:
    • 8.2.1 — Are removed or banned solely for using AI or assistive technologies
    • 8.2.2 — Share content that complies with rules but are externally punished without cause
  • §8.3 — Labeling users as "AI spam" without assessing content quality or rule violations constitutes discriminatory moderation.
• I created Kadai Kupi Space as a respectful, inclusive community, especially for those using AI for accessibility, communication, or language support.
• I personally rely on AI to clarify and express my ideas more effectively, particularly in English.
• I’m not demanding others adopt my rules; I have chosen to align myself with communities that do.
• That’s why I’ve blocked those external communities on a personal level.
• If you’re interested, our full guidelines are available at: https://lemmy.kadaikupi.space/legal
• I encourage thoughtful discussion but believe every user—especially those relying on assistive tools—deserves fairness, not discrimination.

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Summary

• I Updated My Server Rules — To Protect and Include Everyone

• Hello friends,

• I’ve just updated the community rules for Kadai Kupi Space — the Lemmy instance I host from Sabah, Malaysia.

• These updates are made with love and care, to make this space more inclusive, safe, and respectful — especially for people who use AI tools to help with writing, communication, or learning.

• Why the Update?

• Some people use AI to:

  • Help write or fix grammar (especially if English isn’t their first language)
  • Express thoughts clearly (like neurodivergent people)
  • Translate between languages
  • Be more polite or confident in their writing

• I believe these tools can help us join more conversations — not block them.

• So, I updated our rules to protect people who use AI responsibly. No one should be banned or downvoted just because they used an AI to help. That’s unfair, especially if the content is kind, respectful, and useful.

• What’s New in the Rules?

• Clear support for AI as an accessibility tool, not just a “tech thing”

• Rules against harassing or mocking people for using AI

• We now hold people accountable if they abuse their moderation powers to remove AI-generated content without a real reason

• You can still use AI — as long as it’s honest, respectful, and not used to mislead or harm others

• We All Deserve a Voice

• This update is for people who:

  • Are autistic, disabled, or neurodivergent
  • Are learning English or another language
  • Want to be more thoughtful with their words
  • Use AI tools to participate more fully online

• If AI helps you communicate better — you are welcome here.

• If you don’t use AI, that’s okay too — just respect those who do.

• Thank you for being part of this small space.

• Let’s keep it kind, weird, warm — and safe for everyone.

• – Kalvin / @kaeurenne

• Admin of Kadai Kupi Space

📄 Want to read the full updated rules?
Check them out here: https://lemmy.kadaikupi.space/legal