PopPrincess

I'm trans and from Denmark and I can confirm this. Gender affirming care in the Nordic countries is awful. Long waitlists, terrible care, lacking surgical coverage, no HRT for minors, basically legal discrimination when it comes to healthcare rights, awful and untrustworthy staff at the gender clinics, etc.

Societal attitudes are alright. Like I haven't really experienced any direct transphobia towards me that I know of, but transphobia is generally just pervasive in any country and it's more socially acceptable to be transphobic than homophobic, so you'll definitely hear transphobic statements here. Transphobia also seems to be on the rise sadly, not too long ago the previous "minister of equality" wrote a straight-up transphobic article, so it's not looking too good.

That sounds awful, 45 hours a week is already quite a lot, I hope you find a good solution.

I see that you moved to the US, which is my plan too (depending on how the coming years play out, but weather is honestly a big factor for me too😅), so I'd also need to stick it out for the visa.

This is also my general approach when working. My part-time jobs I've had while studying so far I put in a very low effort😅, but at least for part of my training I won't be able to put in low effort and if I want to achieve this goal I'll have to keep up my current grind.

That sounds like a decent boss. Generally in my country work-life-balance is very appreciated and emphasized, but the field I'm going into is known for workaholism. I have a friend whose parents are doctors and they work literally all the time😅

I definitely agree. I think I tend to overfill my schedule as then I won't have any time left to ruminate about the bad parts of my life, and I like being busy as I'm way more productive that way. I generally could see myself happy with a standard cliche family life with a husband and kids, but I don't know if that will ever be achievable for me considering my circumstances sadly.

That's how it is for me too currently. I've let my studies and work basically swallow up all of my time😅 In a way I prefer it as then I don't have time to ruminate or be sad about the things I don't like about my life😅

I'm still in my early 20s, but with my current goal/idea in mind I'd be spending most of my 20s and 30s grinding to reach it. My current lifestyle ain't great as I'm a student, so it would only be worse in regards to hours worked per week.

I definitely fear this. I'm probably pushing 60+ hours right now between studying, work, extracurriculars, etc.😵‍💫

How did you know you were burned out, or approaching burnout?

The issue is I can't assert boundaries as the period with the worst work-life-balance is a medical residency so I'll have to tough it out at least until I'm done with residency (which takes 5-8 years🥲)

It is in the medical field, so while I'd still be underappreciated, there is such a lack of personnel that the odds of being let go are near zero unless I massively mess up. The main issue is the residency part after I have my degree which will be truly awful work-life-balance-wise, but after that it eases up a bit.

A surgical subspecialty (I'm currently in med school), I can specify the specialty further if necessary, but it's know for having a terrible work-life-balance (at least during residency where you'd be regularly pushing 70+ hours a week).

The main issue is that I'm trans, so dating is a truly terrible nightmare. I can't really date people I know or people who are related to my network as I would then have to break stealth and out myself, which I want to avoid by any means.

Not OP, but I recently met a guy while clubbing with my friend. Well the guy is a friend of the friend I went with, but I had never expected that to happen. It won't work out for various reasons, but yeah as cliche as it sounds, going new places or meeting friends of friends are good options. I've also met many cool people while participating in various clubs and organizations at my university.