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Actual Discussion

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Are you tired of going into controversial threads and having people not discuss things, circlejerking, or using emotional responses in place of logic? Us too.

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We’re back! Instead of putting a neutral topic in the introduction, I'm placing a bit of opinion on an issue to see if it helps spur discussion. We are also actively seeking moderators and people who enjoy discussion (and understand that being wrong is an important part of being a better person)! Send me a message if you’d like to help out.

This week, I'd like to discuss something that's been a bit of an issue for me personally.

Lemmy (and Reddit before it) appears to have a problem with overly-aggressive bannings for perceived slights. In the topic linked above there were people permanently banning users from multiple communities (any they moderate - dozens in some cases) for single downvotes, 4 downvotes across a ten-month period, and bannings because a moderator thought they maybe sorta kinda read that a user may have had a negative thought about their pet issue.

I've personally been banned from Communities (and sent some pretty vile PMs) for posting in our weekly threads here playing devil's advocate where I state hard questions that I do not necessarily feel are correct. They think they've discovered some secret agenda by finding posts I've made here and use them as "receipts" in order to dismiss anything they think they're reading that may be contrary to their opinion. Any context provided for the post falls on deaf ears.

I'm someone who operates on the idea of "If you can not defend an opinion from scrutiny, you should probably not hold that opinion."

To quote myself:

It’s pretty tragic that people can't handle opposing opinions. I think the activist nature of Lemmy is kind of a self-destructive spiral and people need to learn how to live with each other again. But I guess that’s the issue with modern social media as a whole… Nobody has any idea how to convince anyone else, only to yell at them louder.

Some Starters (and don’t feel you have to speak on all or any of them if you don’t care to):

  • Are niche Communities correct for banning anyone who downvotes?
  • Do downvotes represent a "disagree" button for you (this Community notwithstanding)?
  • Most importantly, what would it take to change this?
  • Does it help build the Community? What about the platform as a whole?
  • Is there a way to build a "safe space" without building an echo chamber online? Is that even a valuable thing to build?
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[–] SanctimoniousApe@lemmings.world 4 points 3 days ago (1 children)

IMHO, if you want an echo chamber then make a private community. Public spaces should be open to all, and banning used as a last resort - and even then only as a tool to force a "cooling off" period, so temporary bannings only (at least at first). People can just create another login to harass your group anyway, so permanent bans seem stupid & pointless. If someone just won't stop even after multiple month-long bans, then permaban if you wish, but they'll be back under another name out of resentment and anger.

Maybe Lemmy could use a "controversial commenter" flag - not sure if should be set by mods or voting history - which people could use to block threads from those types of people if they don't want to deal with such. This would allow those who want to debate to do so, and those who don't to choose to be oblivious of such discussion.

This has been an off the cuff response, so not thought out much. I expect to be destroyed for such stupid ideas, but hope they'll prompt some useful discussion.

[–] AceTKen@lemmy.ca 2 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

I hadn't heard of a controversial tag. They have them for threads, so it could be cool to get one for users as well. It would solve a lot of issues for sure if it was implemented well! Though on Lemmy, it may wind up applying to most users as everyone seems to have an opinion or two that's controversial to like... everyone.

[–] Canconda@lemmy.ca 3 points 2 days ago (5 children)

for posting in our weekly threads here playing devil's advocate where I state hard questions that I do not necessarily feel are correct.

Please understand that the practice of playing devils advocate has never been to foster discussion. Whatever value it had has been completely obliterated in this misinformation age. Presenting flawed arguments as a rhetorical device is generally a waste of your audience's time at best. At worst it makes you appear to be an ignorant troll.

Are niche Communities correct for banning anyone who downvotes?

Contextually yes. If 1 person's downvotes represent a significant fraction of the total votes, and that person on average downvotes more than upvotes, I would argue a ban is appropriate because clearly that user does not enjoy engaging the content posted.

Do downvotes represent a "disagree" button for you (this Community notwithstanding)?

Always has been.

Most importantly, what would it take to change this?

Nothing. It's not a problem.

Does it help build the Community? What about the platform as a whole?

Ever heard of the Knights of New? Downvotes filter low quality, irrelevant, and illegal content.

Is there a way to build a "safe space" without building an echo chamber online? Is that even a valuable thing to build?

People really need to take responsibility for their media diets and stop conflating every group consensus with an echo chamber. You are in control of what communities you participate in. One can find communities built around almost any idea or belief.

If you go to a community formed around a concept and play devils advocate... you deserve what you get. That doesn't make it an echo chamber. Just makes you captain Ahab.

[–] catty@lemmy.world 0 points 2 days ago

I've never seen a post that has so many poorly incorrect opinions stated as facts. Brava.

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[–] gassyjack@lemmy.ca 3 points 2 days ago (3 children)

I am very new to this community, and I don’t have much experience with niche internet community dynamics, so I wouldn’t take my words with too much weight; I just like to contribute where I can.

After years of watching the upvote/downvote system play out, I have don’t think downvoting is particularly useful at all. In theory, it allows a community to self-moderate and remove harmful posts. In practice, people use it to downvote things they disagree with and it encourages alienation.

I have had moments where I downvoted something, remembered that this was Lemmy, removed the downvote and wrote a carefully worded response instead, because that is the best way to connect through the internet. Will it work every time? No. Are you a better person for trying? Yes.

It is much more difficult to challenge someone in a healthy manner. This challenging process gets completely avoided by downvoting. One downvote click and any attempt at empathy is gone. But that all depends on whether you want to bother.

Harmful people get banned anyways, so how do downvotes assist that process?

It may be that downvoting prevents people from writing enflamed responses but I’m unsure. My view is that upvotes and downvotes should not be the same as likes and dislikes for the exact echo chamber reasoning in OP. There’s needs to be room for dissonance.

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[–] collapse_already@lemmy.ml 4 points 3 days ago

I got banned from a community where I agreed with probably 90% of takes. Ended up having to block a whole instance because I would type replies on unrelated topics only to be told I was banned - would be nice to know that before I wasted time typing a message.

[–] chug-capture-ahoy@piefed.social 3 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

Yep I can confirm. Got banned 3 times, different periods, and all were “just because I can”. But I don’t give a s. I just crate a new account and continue. Trying to find a place where moderation is only for extreme situations.

[–] AceTKen@lemmy.ca 3 points 2 days ago

That's pretty much this space here. I encourage discussion of controversial topics and we use downvotes for replies that don't contribute, not ones we disagree with. We fight ideas, not people. It's in our rules (even though most people don't read 'em).

[–] Natanael@slrpnk.net 2 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (2 children)

Better discovery of related communities, including everything from cross-endorsement from mods, to public user lists of communities, to lemmy instance admin recommended communities (kinda like old reddit default subs, per instance), to fediverse reputation mechanisms, etc.

Also better UX, like lemmy clients with "multireddit" style browsing support.

When interacting with individual lemmy communities, we need better introductions and exposure to rules and guidelines while posting.

Individual communities and instances should be able to run themselves however they want. The lemmy network will be healthiest when people know what to expect and where to find what they want. And if you don't find a place, it should be easier to create and advertise it.

And lastly: community coaching where experienced mods teach new ones.

[–] Blaze@piefed.zip 3 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

https://piefed.social/ has multicommunities

!fedigrow@lemmy.zip for mods coaching

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